My Aunt and uncle were professional thieves. Like, that was their entire job and they lived WELL.

That my mother had a pregnancy scare when I was 6. My dad was sterile.

One day my mom and I were talking about our types, who we like, who likes us. I told her I felt like Asian men don’t tend to find me that attractive. She looked off and smiled for a moment, then told me I’d have to go to Asia to really say that. I asked her if she’d ever been, she shook her head no, left the kitchen, and sat in our garden for hours. Some years after she was gone, I found her passport. She had a Japanese stamp in it. I think she loved someone there, kept it close to her heart.

I was hunting for pics for my grandparents 50th wedding anniversary and found pictures of them in wedding gear with all three of their kids in the 70s. That’s when I found out my grandma divorced my grandpa and married his brother for a couple years then divorced the brother and remarried my grandpa. They just pretended like it didn’t happen.

In 2020, I found out my parents had 3 babies that they placed for adoption . My 3 sisters and I found out through Ancestry DNA. Not half siblings, full sisters. I have met 2 in person , hoping to meet the third one later this summer.

That my older "sister" is actually my mother

my grandma married a gay man. they were best friends since school age, he was in the war. but being gay wasnt acceptable, so they got married to cover it, and she covered for him when he would sleep with guys

#1. That my father has cheated on my mother numerous times throughout my life.
#2. That those affairs were with men.

Well not meeting them but I had a gf once and a few months into it I'm laying on my bed in a hotel room. She walks up and decks me in the eye. I jump up and go to swing (not knowing it was my gf that just s****r punched me) and see who it is I grab my coke that was sitting there and throw the liquid at her and said w*f is your problem? She starts ranting about God knows what so I gently grab her and I'm trying to get her out my room. She all of a sudden turns on Ninja mode and puts her feet up on the door and like kicks off. Here we are flying in the air until I come down on the bed with her still on me. She says and I quote "I'm just kidding let's f###" that is when I knew I had a stage 7 psycho. But I'm semi smart so I figured why not one last time to satisfy her. Afterwards I pretended I was asleep until she left and then I got the h**l out of there and blocked her.

Too likeable, charismatic. Connects with you instantly and its like you are meant to be best friends and soulmates - HUGE RED FLAG.

When I was like 12 my parents visited friends of theirs who lived in a lil suburb here in belgium, who had a kid who was my age and I had already met once before. He had massive neighbour's kid energy, he had a collection of knives in his room, as well as airsoft guns and a bow. Anyways while parents were chatting he took the bow and showed me the back of the house where there was a chicken enclosure his family owned. He then started shooting arrows into it (Actual, pointy metal tipped ones) but trying to not shoot the chickens themselves to try and impress me or something.

A little while later he was showing me a knife and suddenly made a motion to like, pretend to s**b me with it, like a "made you flinch haha" type bad joke. I flinched my hands up, and my left hand caught on the blade and got opened a bit between my index and middle finger. Not a huge wound, but I was still bleeding a bunch and crying even more. Run up to my parents, they take me to the hospital, and to this day I still have the lil scar on my hand and my parents never talked to these friends of theirs again.

Meeting my brother-in-law for the first time. No emotion behind those eyes, even his laugh was very inauthentic. Told my sister that he was a psycho, married him anyway and got to find it out for herself.

Shows up for a job interview online in her pajamas and immediately starts eating a sandwitch. Asks me what is the reason for the meeting since she forgot, spends one minute vaguely talking about the job then says people working with her usually hang out at her house and proceeds to give me a house tour. After finishing the sandwitch licks her fingers one by one in front of the camera, then goes off on a tangent about AI taking over the world. I was already struggling to keep a straight face but when she called her husband with a whistle and he actually showed up like a trained dolphin I almost lost it. Needless to say, I did not accept the job.

Maybe not a psychopath by hard-definition but definitely a sociopath.

I had an office job in Amsterdam, NL. One day this new guy from the US was hired in to work in my team (software dev).

Late 30s, kinda shy but admittedly smart and good with Java.

Long story short, this dude was the most insidious manchild I've ever met, doing all kinds of devious things that would always create conflict with me, only to always make me look like I was the crazy one in front of all my coworkers. To the extent that after 2 years I had a mental breakdown in the middle of a company meeting because of stuff that he was doing, and how helpless I was feeling, messing with my reputation just because.

I had to keep a folder in my computer with all kinds of evidence proving how much of a compulsive liar he was and how he was deliberately targeting me to just make my life miserable.

Eventually I got sick leave and I made my case to HR, proving all the c**p he was doing (and how good he was at it) to disturb me and make me look like I was the insane one.

He eventually got fired mainly because of all of this, but also because after a while he started having trouble to keep up with all the lies he would tell before everyone else, so people started catching up to him.

I had a student once who from day 1 was paying really close attention to another student who was autistic. Like, he spent practically two days studying this kid. I actually thought maybe they were friendly or he was just struggling to understand some of this kid’s behaviours in an age appropriate way. Ohhh no.

What this child then started doing was deliberately sitting next to the autistic student, deliberately doing something that would provoke him, then dobbing the autistic student in for talking or kicking out or telling him to shut up. It was EVERY time they came to sit on the floor. I eventually had to implement a seating plan for both tables and floor, and communicate this to all the other teachers, because whenever I wasn’t in the room he’d go right back to the autistic child and start up again.

There were other kids in the class who weren’t very nice to this autistic child, but this kid is the only one I’ve ever taught who deliberately went out of his way to provoke meltdowns. When I questioned him about it he said “it’s funny”. His parents, with whom I spoke regularly, didn’t care and kept blaming the school for “letting those kind of students in”.

It was the most exhausting year of my career constantly keeping them separate and keeping an eye out to ensure the autistic student was not being bullied either in class or on the playground. At the same time I’m dealing with the parents of the autistic student, who refuse to believe that he IS autistic, therefore he wasn’t allocated funding and we couldn’t get any support for him.

When my colleague watches me get promoted above him and makes up an entire piece of work that is sub standard and then when people tell him it’s bad he starts claiming it as mine behind my back)

this man “married a lesbian for citizenship in Australia, got drunk and slept with married young admin staff he had power and management over which meant she had to resign and almost lost her fiance, then repeated the same thing with the next admin and put her into a leadership position, which destroyed the team she was supposed to lead..

He then moves on to the next younger female volunteer, whilst also flirting and playing with the obese

He sweet talks and flirts with all the older female managers- those without clinical training are charmed, including HR managers who try to help him gain further promotions.

Eventually he is promoted to a role where he can’t go any higher in his desperate pursuit of being a CEO, because all of his behaviours have been documented and are known to senior staff who aren’t charmed.

He then finds another org to go and charms their female CEO.

Thankfully I heard one of the women he took advantage of wrote to the board of the new org.

I went to college with a guy that we all called The Russian

His entire personality was wrapped up in being from Russia, he always talked about it, referenced it, etc

If you were out in public with him, he'd turn to you and go "did you see that guy? Totally had Russian mob hand tattoos"

It happened so much we figured out that at least some of it has to be exaggerated or made up. Tons of little lies, like he's telling you he would give you $20 to drive him home, but ask to stop at circle K first. Then he'd use the $20 to buy cigarettes and give you the change

One time he asked me "you have a car right?"
He knew I did. His 'plan' was to rob his d****r. He said all I had to do was drive and stand there looking menacing with a gun. I told him I'm not interested, I don't own a gun, and I don't know how to use one, so hard pass. I avoided talking to him after that

After college, a mutual friend and I were working together and he came up to me and said "remember 'Alexi' The Russian? Well, I MET HIS MOM"....

Turns out, not Alexi, it was Alexander. Turns out, not adopted from Russia at a young age. Grew up in Scottsdale Arizona. Absolutely nothing the guy had ever said was true

A few years later I'm telling this story to a coworker, and the next day she comes in with a link to a news article and said "is this the guy?"

It was. He had convinced the brother of the mutual friend I used to work with to go along with his "rob my d**g d****r" plan. The brother got k****d by the d****r, and The "Russian" is spending life in prison on the hook for it.

I broke up with an ex because he wrote things out phonetically & didn’t comprehend things when reading them.

"I'm starting to see myself in you."

I finally had enough of his a***e and started retaliating/fighting back.

I got dumped after 3 months of dating. She only dated guys for 3 months at a time. I had known this from her history, but I thought I would be different.

I…um…wasn’t.

I was too boring, apparently, because I never hit her across the face, never pushed her to the floor when she was "being b****y" and never insisted on having s*x when she was tired or cranky.


Yes, respecting the answer "no" was "too boring".

This just happened two days ago so a bit fresh 😓 I just found out I have POTS it was caused by a viral infection, so he broke up with me siting “I don’t want my future kids to be born inferior.”

Okay… says the man whose family is a bunch of alcoholics. Also I got it from a viral illness, meaning it’s not genetic dumb a*s….

His mom didn't like me because I was too fat.

It was hard at the time, but yeah, I dodged a bullet.

“My ex who I thought was d**d is actually alive and we never technically broke up. So technically I’ve been cheating on you, and now we need to break up to be fair to her” And he actually thought I’d believe him.

Young love summer love... first love.... first everything..

after a month he said "you know how i said I loved you"
"I kinda lied" .

F**k you Stuart! (40 years later and I'm still salty 😆).

Got her ex out of her place because he was a*****e. We date for a fee months. She realizes she crazes the chaos of a***e and kept hoping I would throw a plate or something at her etc when she was purposefully trying to make me mad. She stated she was specifically shocked when she ruined a meal and I ate it as is saying it was fine. That was the final straw apparently. Never been more confused in my life.

“You’re like Liam Hemsworth: You look good, but I’m not attracted to you”

Where’s the emotional damage clip when you need it?

When I was 16 my girlfriend dumped me because I was covered in the blood of sin and she couldn’t be with someone covered in that blood.

I know that sounds insane but that’s almost exactly her words. .

He said, "Why would I want to marry you if you didn't want to have kids?"

We had been together for years, all of which I had, at every opportunity, ranted about how I did not want children. And three years in, he drops that b**b.

I once broke up with a girl who then convinced me to stay with her, because she loved me and all the other things people say. Less than a month later she broke up with me said it was because I was more into her than she was into me.

In hindsight, there were many many early warning signs but I was a silly 20yr old girl blinded by lust for this big, beautiful beefcake of a man that everyone wanted and he inexplicably wanted me. He would say "Pacifically" instead of "Specifically", he pronounced "ask" as "arks" and he didn't know what the words like demure or coy meant. But my god, his face. His body.
A few weeks later, I couldn't handle this big handsome dumb dumb any more and broke up with him. It will always stick with me him going "YOU'RE BREAKING UP WITH ME COZ I DON'T KNOW MANY WORDS?!" and me just answering "yup".

“We can’t see each other anymore, because I’m unkind to you sometimes and it makes me feel bad. And I can’t stop being mean to you because I got Lyme disease in high school”.

She didn’t want me to take my psych meds anymore. Basically said I need to stop taking them or she’ll leave. Showed her the door.

Not an excuse I've been given but one I have given. When I was 16, I had this idea of perfection that I was trying to attain, and I tried to force it on everyone else. When I was with my ex Andy, I didn't like when he would email me and not change the subject line. I don't know why I thought doing so was the way to be perfect, but when I said we should break up because I thought he would comply, he said he agreed. I never did anything like that again.

“You’re amazing and beautiful but my mum doesn’t think you’re right for me”

*His mother had d**d 4 years earlier*.

They told me that it was over because I was too ugly. At 2am. In a hotel lobby. On Valentine’s Day.