UNCOVERED: Bad bosses posts - The Untold Story

Back in may I asked if I could wear the athletic skort to work since I’d be leaving directly from my branch to a work event that was outside. Her reply was that I could wear it and I even sent a picture of it to make sure but then the next month when we had our one on one meeting I was told I couldn’t wear it. Make this make sense. Like what the hell?

So a little backstory; I’m the only teller in my branch( I work for a credit union) and I’m pretty sure my supervisor was trying to get me fired. Luckily she got let go so she’s no longer my problem but I found this in one of her notebooks. She would write stuff down to talk to our branch manager about. The part I marked out was about an outdoor concert venue that our credit union sponsored and we sometimes would work the table at the events.

For context I have naturally curly hair same as the wig I am wearing, why wear a wig then? First off it’s a quick and simple way to get ready for the day and two I am thinning I have yet to see a dermatologist to see what’s wrong but that is besides the point, I woke up this morning and decided I wanted to feel better about myself so let me get my best hair on and go to work, this wig is practically the same length as my natural hair the only difference is that this one has way more hair in the front which I am happy with because that is where I am thinning.

I get to work and everyone is impressed with my hair, I haven’t typically worn a wig at work but I do always change my hair style: I have it in braids, I have it up, down, straighten, all of the styles, but my boss is almost speechless at the sight of me. I thought he would make a comment on my hair like he has in the past the meme with the “puerto Rican hair” sound but instead he instantly says that I need to put it up to not be in the patients eyes..?

In my couple of years working here he has never had an issue with any hairstyles I’ve had it all this is only the first time I’ve worn a wig, well it’s rubbed me the wrong way, he did try to “apologize” without saying sorry and was just making sure I didn’t feel picked on by him, well I do and I’m so over it, currently crying silently to myself because if I didn’t need this job I would have walked out I just need a place to rant and see what others say, like I understand he’s just doing his job but at the same time this felt very targeted and hurtful to me.

I was called out in a group message and have been trying to formulate a response, and I genuinely need to know if I'm taking things too personally. I'm a 1099 yoga instructor for this business, and have to show up on site wherever I'm scheduled to go. We work with in business professional settings, but there has never been a dress code mentioned. I am your average 5'3" athletic, tiny-cheasted female. Pictured are screenshots of the employer's messages to the ENTIRE group, plus my considered but not sent, response to the pictured conversation is below. I really need some advice because I didn't receive a dress code, never got clarification on it in the group messages, and feel really attacked for something that could have been so simple to fix with some advice. I honestly thought what I wore was appropriate workout attire, and feel unprotected as that seems predatory to me. I also have never had complaints wearing similar outfits, even shorts, with the other locations I go to.
My response - feel free to comment advice: ""- indicates a generic change for privacy.
This next part is lengthy, but I would really love to share my side of today in a private conversation. I understand completely that you needed to address some things, but the approach felt targeted, and I'd love to share my POV.
I mentioned I had videos I shared specifically for "private students", and asked if their collection was similar. He didn't know, but I said maybe we(as in "yoga business that hired me") could put together more videos for them since he said there was only three. I can see the misunderstanding, but I don't even have public YouTube videos at this time, and would have been happy to clarify that and share a link to my YT to prove I'm not trying to take away your ability to make profit. I've always wanted your success!
About my my outfit, I wore high waisted, full-length dual-lined leggings with a white, full coverage sports bra under the "company logo" top I just bought and socks. It wasn't up to their dress code, which is fine, that can always be fixed, but there also wasn't one distinguished for fitness instructors, and if it was something specific, it would have been great just to get a simple dress code or uniform and not be called out on the full group chat, that was hurtful. 🥺
Overall, that message felt very much like I was being attacked ultimately after I showed up, delivered a great, full-body class with lots of smiles and stretched bodies, and tried to show I heard them about getting variety in videos.
All of that being said, I really loved working with the studio, but those messages in the group were really unprofessional and hurtful. I don't feel protected as what I wore was not provocative at minimum, and I think it's best for my mental health if I come by and return your key. Thank you so much for providing the opportunity, and I wish you all the best!!

My COVID-19 Hypocrite Boss... just came back from Bangkok before she was forced quarantined there. The US let a 72 yo heavy smoker back into the country (she said she was exempt from being in the high risk group because she does not inhale her cigarettes, although she constantly hacks her lungs out- so she lies to herself constantly).

When she arrived back in the US she went straight to her home OFFICE. ...Where three of us work including her son. The day before she arrived I set up, single handedly, a teleworking software program for all of the office computers except my coworker’s personal laptop- my coworker did that one herself. I found, tested and installed the software. We made a plan with her son to turn on and off the computers as needed so we could have a connection during work hours. We all exchanged numbers and made the decision to comply with the law- San Francisco was implementing the “shelter in place” law the next day, also her return day.

Next day: She sets up a zoom meeting asking me to apologize for not coming into work and not being explicit about not showing up to work. My coworker and I DID sent her an email explaining we would be teleworking so to comply with the law. What my coworker and her son did not tell me was that they gave credit for the teleworking software to “the iMac guys” to create more validity. BEcauSe ThEy’Re mEN. (?!) Nothing against that gender, but it did ruin my credibility and autonomy in the workplace. I told Ginger, my boss, that it was me who installed the software and she was upset that I felt the need to collect credibility. (Imsorrywhat?!) Her son also told her HE WAS NOT ENTIRELY SURE if we were coming back to work or not. Even though we made plans, exchanged numbers, and said, “See you in two weeks.” to one another as I left for the last day in office. Spineless. Prick. ...who has only worked for his mother and is 28yo.
So she ‘let me go’ because there is no money right now even though she made me make this graphic: see above. THERE IS SO MUCH MORE TO THIS STORY. But the last thing she did before laying me off was forcing me to make this graphic so she could maintain the presence as a caring, loving entity on social media. I was her, I am a, graphic designer. Feel free to email in asking for me to have proper compensation. Feel free to comment on her social media sites. It is a free country.