
DARK SECRETS: Abelbocker | Rare Historical Photos
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This lazy panda forgot to write something about itself.

Tunder · upvoted 10 items
over 1 year ago

Tunder · commented on a post
almost 2 years ago

Most of these black and white pics of her and of racists back then weren’t even black and white originally

Tunder · upvoted 28 items
about 2 years ago

I always share this when appropriate. As an EMT we were trained in suicide prevention. And, counterintuitively, one of the WORST things you can do is to tell people things like, "it's not so bad." At best, you've just lost all credibility with them. They'll think you aren't listening, that you don't understand. At worst, you can actually push them over the edge as they seek to prove just how bad it is for them. Paradoxically, the best thing you can do is to agree with them. Tell them something like, "Wow, it sounds like things have been really rough for you." Because it shows that you aren't just sweeping things under the rug or trivializing their problems. It allows you to connect. Sometimes just that connection, knowing someone else sees how tough it is and doesn't just treat them like they are weak or their problems are easy to solve, is enough. But at the very least it allows you to then redirect. (cont in reply)

You mean there are people who don't?

Tunder · commented on a post
about 2 years ago

I don’t get how people assume some creatures can’t feel pain? Like recently they found out “oh lobsters can actually feel that they’re being boiled”, isn’t that the first thing you assume of a living creature?

