We had been burgled and I was trying to call him at work. It was a Saturday morning. I was a regular at a library about 200 yards from his work so I called the library and asked if someone would be kind enough to nip down there and pass on a message for me.


Someone called me back and said they had been to his work but there wasn't a soul there. No lights on, all doors locked, no cars in the car park. It was definitely closed.


I waited for him to get home 'from work' and asked where he'd been. He said he'd been at work. I told him what I had asked the library to do. He knew what I was getting at, he knew I'd caught him! He said he didn't have time for this nonsense because he had to go back to work, he had only called in to pick something up. I told him if he left now I wouldn't be there when he got back, and he told me he loved me but had to go. He left, so I moved out that night. 


I found the truth out by accident about 2 weeks later. He wasn't just cheating on me, he was cheating WITH me. I was a sidepiece. He had never left his wife officially, his wife was pregnant with his son (we'd lived together for over a year at this point) and the girl that he said was his cousins girlfriend was also one of his bits on the side. I was absolutely crushed. 


I walked to the house I was told he lived in and left a note on his car saying I knew what he had done...then had a sad walk home and was picked up by a taxi driver that felt sorry for me. I also found out he had been lying to me from day one. I was 17 when we got together, he said he was 26. Turned out he was 30 when we met. 


Then I found out he had been defrauding my family and even 13 years after we had split up, my parents were still getting debt collection letters to their address. He forged my dad's signature on a HP car purchase, stopped paying for the car then sold it. I won't tell you everything he did but he is the sole reason why my little brothers body rotted in a morgue for 3 months after he took his own life! .