I was dancing with the bride and she said, “I wish it was you.” We were friends, never in a relationship.

The groom laughed with his mates whilst the bride walked down the aisle with her father. He didn’t show any affection, emotion or respect.

I wished I’d kept notes because it felt like the plot of a bad movie.

Six weeks before the wedding the bride was sent a message through facebook telling her to log into an account. Someone had catfished the groom and got it to the point he’d booked a hotel to meet up with the catfish. He convinced her that someone was out to get him and the catfish was a sl** anyway. (Personally I’d have dumped him over the misogynistic defence).

Morning of the wedding he goes AWOL for three hours because he wants to walk to the venue. (5 miles from the house).

Three months later she finds his shoe ringing and realises he hid his mobile in there. She goes to switch it off and he charges out the shower shouting at her for going near it. She leaves to have a meal with friends (he didn’t want to come) and when she comes back the house is stripped of his belongings and a few of hers.

During the three month separation he is texting her messages like ‘if you want to know why I cheated on you look in the mirror’. I also found out around this time that she’d called the police twice during the engagement because their fights turned nasty. Also lots of other grooming for DV red flags.

They they reconciled and she fell pregnant so they actually lasted about 18 months before they separated permanently. It was one time I wished I’d asked her if she was sure she wanted to marry him and I would support her any way she wanted if the answer was no.

ETA I think the first MOH did approach the bride because she was sacked and never came to the wedding.

It was just before the ceremony. I was a little late, walking quickly from the parking lot to the church when the limo carrying the groom and best man arrived. The groom, my friend, saw me, ran over to hug me, he was quite drunk and while hugging me whispered 'why couldn't you be marrying me instead'!

The marriage lasted about a year.

The mother of the groom speech was all about how heartbroken she was to not be the number one lady in her son’s life anymore. It was uncomfortable.

Groomsmen (Navy) lined up to make a “sword tunnel”, the bride and groom ran through it, and the last guy smacked the bride on the a*s with his sword as she exited while yelling “welcome to the Navy!”

Then the groom cut the cake with his sword (of course) and his first toast was to … the Navy! Lots of cheers from the Navy folks. Awkward silence from all other guests.

I was a kid and perplexed by it all. My dad leaned down and muttered “I give ‘em a year.” He was spot on to nearly the day.

My cousin overheard a conversation between the bride and (presumably) bridesmaid, where the bridesmaid said something to the effect of “oh you must be so happy” to which the bride replied “I just did what I had to do”. The marriage only lasted about 1 or 2 years.

They had been together years longer than my partner and I- he and my (now spouse) were best friends so I knew they talked about proposals etc.

After one year dating mine proposed to me, and the next day he to her. We decided on a wedding 18 months later to give us plenty of time to pay out of pocket, make our arrangements and keep it small (less than 20)

She hauled a*s to get married in 9 months or so, HUGE wedding her parents took out a loan for, bigger reception and massive cake etc.

You could just tell she was in a rush to get married first of the friend group bc they had been together longer, it was a matter of pride almost.

12 years later my spouse and I are still chugging along, they lasted less than two years.

The bride hiding in the bathroom during most of the reception with a self-induced migraine because she didn't want to go home with groom.


Edit to answer questions: not an arranged marriage. Groom thought he could help bride be kind and loving. She has never changed - cold rude and unkind naturally. Groom thought she was "shy and misunderstood" he didnt realize until after the wedding when we all thought he lost weight due to critical illness or cancer & he got shingles in his 20s due to marriage stress.


Also, she either faked her migraine and stayed in the bathroom only letting her mom in the stall, or she had been starving/not drinking water (something her siblings joked about as to how she would starve herself growing up until her parents caved to her demands).

At a wedding the bride and groom danced separately most of the night. Then when my husband and I left the reception the bride was sitting outside alone in her dress smoking a cigarette. We found out later that the groom caught the bride cheating not long before the wedding and they decided to go ahead with everything anyway. Turns out she was a serial cheater and they were divorced a few years later.

Fist fight broke out between mothers-in-law in the restroom, which spilled out into the rest of the party, leading to a screaming match between bride and groom. Divorced two years later.

When they entire groom's wedding party, including his best man, were picked by the bride, and none of his family and friends were included.

She was yelling at all the bridesmaids in the limo on drive up to the altar that we all ruined her wedding and she hated everything 😂.

I’ve told this story on a different sub before but I think it’s worth retelling. So many moons ago in a small town in the west of Ireland there was quite a large traveller’s wedding and the reception was at the main hotel in the town.
The bride’s father had brought the cash to pay for the wedding and put it in the inside pocket of his suit.
The money got stolen and there was absolute chaos. While watching back the vhs video footage of the wedding it turns out the groom was caught stealing the money during the Father/daughter dance.
I believe she was widowed shortly after.

When they threw the rings at each other in an argument between the ceremony and reception.

At the reception there were two separate fistfights, and the bride disappeared. She was found about an hour and a half later at a red roof inn with the older brother of the best man. The groom was so drunk he had passed out right after the wedding, and when he found out his bride was with another man he ended up leaving with his ex gf that he had insisted attend the wedding. This was an expensive wedding, over 40k. The marriage lasted 3 weeks.

They were supposed to film videos for each other to share with everyone at reception, as a surprise to each other. We all watched as bride's video played, very lovey, excited for the future, full of hope and happiness. Groom's video was basically expressionless, I don't think he even said I love you in it once - just went on about creating a Godly household and roles of wife and husband stuff. Turns out he was super controlling and basically took her to the other side of the country away from all her friends and family, and limited contact. They lasted about a year and a half all said and done.

When the groom wouldnt stand closer then 10 feet from the bride at the altar and then for the rest of the wedding and she kept trying to get closer to him and every step closer she took he took two back!! it was so hard to watch

edit to add ** thank u for the awards & upvotes! I did not expect that.

for all those curious, i am a wedding photographer i was paid to be there it was unfortunately not an arranged wedding either....

I wasn’t a guest, but I happened to be scheduled to work catering for the wedding of someone I went to high school with. The groom had to be taken to the hospital to have his stomach pumped during the reception. Not a great sign. They divorced within a year, if I remember correctly.

The bride spent the entire reception complaining to her friends about how she wished she was marrying her ex instead. Like loud enough that multiple tables heard her. They were divorced within 8 months.

Groom smashed cake in her face after she said not to. You could feel the future divorce in the room.

2x examples:

1. When the groom was so 'overcome' with emotions he cried the entire day. Word on the street is that none of his friends ever see him and his wife won't let him go anywhere.

2. When noone actually meaningful was invited to the wedding and the guest list was made by another relative with little to no input from the couple.