Being pretty is a burden — does that seem like a ridiculous statement to you? If it does, you might want to rethink your biases. Many things might be easier for those who are deemed conventionally attractive, but that doesn’t mean that it’s all sunshine and rainbows for them every day, all day. For example, research finds that being pretty isn’t beneficial if you’re in the prison system: “attractive” inmates receive longer sentences by 22 months on average.
Attractive people also deal with other, more mundane yet annoying things, many of which were listed in a recent online thread. User @_annamarier asked other women on Threads, “What’s the downside of pretty privilege that nobody really talks about?” And the girlies didn’t hold back: from sexist assumptions, nasty reactions from women, and dealing with creepy men, being beautiful has a dark side, too.
#2
Everyone assuming that you want their man just bc you're generally friendly. Girl, I am not interested in your swamp goblin. You can have him.
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17points
#3
In the workplace any female management instantly hates you.
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12points
#4
People presuming I've had an easy life when it's been the opposite. People assuming I'm dumb without taking the time to speak to me or ask my thoughts. Friends projecting insecurities onto me and trying to make me feel bad about myself. Men attacking me and stalking me. Dating partners being jealous because of comments I receive online. And finally, receiving poor medical care because there's no way you can be in pain while looking that good!
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12points
#5
Being single because everyone lusts over you, thinks you have a roster and is intimidated. People trying to humble you.
10points
#7
1. Some women befriend you just to see where to stick the knife in you.
2. Being lusted after more than genuinely valued.
3. Being excluded or not invited simply because it’s you.
4. People getting close just to mirror or take from your personality.
5. People believing negative things about you because it confirms what they already felt.
6. Older women choosing competition over mentorship. And then they wonder why we’re labeled “stuck up” or become more inaccessible. We just move accordingly.
2. Being lusted after more than genuinely valued.
3. Being excluded or not invited simply because it’s you.
4. People getting close just to mirror or take from your personality.
5. People believing negative things about you because it confirms what they already felt.
6. Older women choosing competition over mentorship. And then they wonder why we’re labeled “stuck up” or become more inaccessible. We just move accordingly.
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9points
#8
In this male-dominated world, you’ll meet powerful men during your career who recognize your skills, talent and expertise, but they treat the 'right doors' like a trade, offering access ONLY if you become their spouse, girlfriend or sleep with them. If you refuse to compromise your values, they often pivot from being a mentor to a roadblock, making your path intentionally harder. It’s a specialized kind of professional sabotage that forces some to choose between their goals and their integrity.
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7points
#9
° People being googlely-eyed with NOTHING else to offer.
° Can't go anywhere without someone staring at me or trying to talk to me
° Cat-calling or someone making a comment about my body
° Jealousy from women who don't love themselves, their face or body
° People think they have access to my body
° People assume pretty faces shouldn't have a voice, opinion, or intellect
° People assume you have a easy life because I don't look like what I've been through
° People are often intimidated
° Etc...
° Can't go anywhere without someone staring at me or trying to talk to me
° Cat-calling or someone making a comment about my body
° Jealousy from women who don't love themselves, their face or body
° People think they have access to my body
° People assume pretty faces shouldn't have a voice, opinion, or intellect
° People assume you have a easy life because I don't look like what I've been through
° People are often intimidated
° Etc...
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7points
#10
Constantly being spoken to in public places when I’m just running my errands ie harassment everywhere. Not trusting anyone ever because I don’t know if someone is being nice because they are actually nice or because they think I’m attractive. Soooo many people being intimidated by me.
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7points
#12
Doctor here My age and competency is always in question and assumptions are made before I speak.
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7points
#14
People telling you it’s easier to age. Nothing about ageing as a woman is EASY, it’s just different. Otherwise Hollywood and LA would be filled with natural faces.
6points
#15
Have yall ever had guys go OUT OF THEIR WAY to tell you “by the way I’m not attracted to you” or “I don’t want to sleep with you” like out of NOWHERE. Like you’ve never flirted with this person and then they just….say that. For no reason.
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6points
#16
* People assume life is easy / successful for you
* You get objectified constantly / men (sadly married even) get creepy / disrespectful with you
* Creates jealous competitive women who turn out malicious / fake
* You have to work twice as hard in your career to be seen as competent
* Less friends / no friends
* People project stories onto you / constant false interpretations.
* You get objectified constantly / men (sadly married even) get creepy / disrespectful with you
* Creates jealous competitive women who turn out malicious / fake
* You have to work twice as hard in your career to be seen as competent
* Less friends / no friends
* People project stories onto you / constant false interpretations.
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6points
#17
Not being taken seriously by men you’re genuinely interested in. They’re usually insecure & think you have sooooo many options!
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5points
#18
Not getting a promotion because “you’re too cutesy, and no one will take you seriously.”
… until you get married, and then suddenly it’s on the table again.
… until you get married, and then suddenly it’s on the table again.
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5points
#19
Harassment, not taken seriously, insecure men, jealousy, men just want to hookup.
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5points
#20
As a slightly conventionally attractive autistic woman, my 20s were a nightmare. I could not tell who was going to hurt me and who actually wanted to be friends. I thought every dude was just super nice and interested in whatever I was obsessed with at the time. And I had been raised to make eye contact even though it sucks and physically pains me and men take that as a sign of flirting???
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4points