When living in South Korea I dated this Korean dude, it was great at first helping with simple tasks in a country that is not English friendly. Then started blaming me for all the “bad things” in his life and continually stated “you need to change or we’ll have to break up”… (I asked him why he couldn’t change? He’s “perfect” and I’m the reason for his bad feelings). So for a time I did be best to “change”, but it made me miserable! (He became more aggressive when I didn’t “comply”).
long story short, returned to NZ, finally told him “sorry, turns out I can’t change, we’ll have to break up”. Blew up all my social media platforms, “I was joking! I can be the one who changes! You don’t have too!”
I had to block him from them all platforms. Then started writing letters in the post, burnt them all, then finally, he flies all the way to my house in New Zealand!! Just to tell me “you weren’t answering any of my phone calls, emails, messages or letters, so I came here to tell you, I have not been well since the break up, so I jumped off a 5 story, but I’m ok though, I fell on to the 3rd story”…
I was so mad and so sick of the emotional black mail that I told him “well you didn’t jump far enough!!” He looked shocked by the response, rather than the usual “oh, I’m so sorry, how can I make it better?”
Called the police, they found him, told him to leave me alone, and went back to Korea.. it was the last I heard from again.