#1

One day he comes out of his office and everyone puts their head down because they know what's coming. He set his eyes on me walks into the middle of the office in clear sight of everyone and screams " Hey! You! What are you doing! Where are those files I needed an hour ago? Why are they not already on my desk?!" I replied "Well, you asked me an hour ago so I'm still putting all 12 of them together. I'll have them to you before as a priority." He doesn't like my response and starts jibing at me "No, that's not good enough, you're useless, pathetic, I have no idea why we pay you, you're a liability, may as well pull in some homeless person to replace you with that attitude! You'll never make it at this firm!"
Well. I was already having a bad day but I decided, for the first time in my career, that I knew my job, I knew how to do it and I was done allowing psychopaths treat me like a punch bag. I stood up, walked over to him and stood a few feet from him and said in my sternest but calmest voice "How dare you! How dare you speak to me like that! I am a human being, not a dog or your punch bag. My father, who raised me, put clothes on my back and food in my mouth doesn't talk to me that way, so what in hell makes you think you've earned that right! "
His face went from a purple red to a ghostly white. He turned around and walked back to his office. I stood in the middle of the office looked around and saw all the smiles and glee from the other lawyers. For the next 10 minutes I felt like the champion of the world as I would catch a nod of approval here and a hidden thumbs up there. Even when security were asking me to collect my belongings and be walked out the building they did it in the most helpful and empathetic way that made me feel like I did the right thing.
I've never let anyone talk to me like that again.
#2

My friend and I got done with what we planned. Boss sees us packing up and gets mad that we’re leaving early. (Mind you it’s 4pm on a Saturday and my friend and I got in at 6am). I told him I’m leaving to go with my fiancé shopping for our child. He then proceeds to tell me “She’s an adult. She can shop herself. You seem to care more about this unborn kid than the job that I’m paying you to do.”
Yeah….so I applied to a bunch of jobs Sunday morning and started a new job 3 weeks later that paid 2X than what that started did.
#3

As humans, it makes sense that obstacles and difficulties will make us feel stressed and worried, but the Mental Health Foundation found that nearly 74% of people report sometimes feeling so overwhelmed they’ve been unable to cope. This experience seems more common among older folks, with 30% saying they’ve felt this way often.
People also cope with such troubles differently, and 46% mention that they eat or drink a lot because of stress, and 29% drink to deal with the worry. The research also found that individuals who struggle to cope with their troubles experience depression and anxiety, which can be worrisome.
#4

During a post-doc research I discovered a potential side process that would interrupt the main focus of the research and brought it up to my prof, who told me to bring it up during the next meeting to see if the company wanted me to look into it.
So I did, the company listened and then said they'd rather I'd not spend the time. At which point me prof fully goes off on me, telling everyone he'd told me not to waste that time, and how I should have known never to bring it up and that I should not spend another second on 'that nonsense'
I was a shocked but had not worked there long and just said ok, and went on.
8 months later, next meeting, and the company tells me in the meeting they had looked at what I'd said and that maybe I should look into it after all.
Queue my prof going off again on 'how he'd always said I should do that' and why I'd 'not shown the initiative to do those simple experiments on the side' etc etc.
I started applying for new positions that evening and was out of there within 2 months.
#5

#6

Their response was to threaten me with discipline for discussing salary with a coworker. I said correct my next paycheck to show that I was earning more than my trainee or consider this my notice. The raise never came through and I quit once my paycheck was posted.
Former coworkers called later that week and said that my trainee had just been fired for theft.
What’s odd is that even when people realize they’re in a bad situation, they may find it hard to leave. According to Psychology Today, one reason this might happen is that folks always hope things can get better. This positivity might carry them through even the most difficult moments, but it could also keep them from making a change.
That’s why people need to reflect on whether something problematic in their life is serving them or whether it's causing more issues. If there doesn’t seem to be a purpose for it, then it might be time to make a change, or else one’s mental health and well-being could suffer in the long run.
#7

It's happened numerous times over the years and my tolerance for it is getting much, much shorter with every passing instance.
#8

Adding insult to injury I was recovering from my second spine surgery and had been EXTREMELY limited in what I was physically able to do. Intimacy had been off the table for a month and would be for another 4 weeks.
She then asked if I still loved her and before I could answer she told me that she was going to take a bath.
My parents loved about a mile and a half away at the time. They were out of town so I packed up clothes to last me a week and was driving them up to my parent’s place to drop them off and then come back and tell my wife I was going to stay there for a little while.
As soon as I pulled in my sister pulled in behind me. She was just coming by to check on everything while my folks were out of town. She saw me carrying a sack of clothes and asks me what’s up. I told her and the conversation went on for a while. Much longer than I planned on being gone.
When I got back on my car to head home my then wife called and asked me where I was. Before I could finish the sentence she just started screaming at me about how that’s not fair for me to just walk out on her and not say anything and that I cheated on her first (I didn’t cheat on her. Full stop) and that what she did wasn’t even *that* bad.
My brain-while in the holding pattern for her to shut her mouth for a moment so I could speak-simply said “I do not have to go back to this. Ever again.” So I just hung up on her, got out of the car, found some scotch in the liquor cabinet, and poured myself a drink and watched an Aliens. It was one of the most freeing and cathartic things I had ever done.
The next day while she was at work I went back to our house and grabbed my medications, computer, and a few other necessities. 11 years later I have no regrets.
#9

One thing that often stops people from changing bad circumstances is something called the investment fallacy. It refers to all the time, energy, and effort a person has put into relationships, work, or anything they value. The idea of “wasting” that investment is often unbearable, and it can make people want to stick around even when it doesn’t make sense.
The problem is that holding onto something that causes a lot of pain can do more harm than good. That’s why experts say folks should make peace with their decisions, even if they’ve put a lot of effort into something; if it doesn’t seem to be working out, it’s best to let it go.
#10

#11

I sat there, fuming, then realized I didn't have to put up with it anymore and moved up my retirement, effective immediately.
#12
Have you ever had a friend or loved one who stuck around in a bad relationship even though they should have jumped ship a long time ago? It might seem baffling that anybody would want to stick through such pain, but sometimes, low self-worth and a lack of self-esteem might make a person stay with a terrible partner.
People who don’t think they deserve better often tend to accept small crumbs of affection and don’t see anything wrong with being treated badly. That’s why, only if they begin to work on their self-confidence, might they realize they should be with someone who cares about them and values them.
#13

I saw my life unfolding as an engineer in small town factories across the south in the USA, always wondering what it would be like to live somewhere else, speak another language, go to Rome, walk on the Acropolis, backpack in Portugal, explore Moscow, live in Prague, visit China, meet interesting people, minimize regrets.
So I went for it. 30 years later, I'm living on an island in the Mediterranean, own a nice home with a sea view, swim in the sea each morning (even in December) with my lovely wife, loving life. I've experienced so many things over those years, I'm extremely lucky.
#14

#15

Like the people in this list, you might reach a point where you feel “done with” or tired of a bad situation. If you’ve really thought about it, don’t let fear or worry talk you out of walking away. According to researchers at Forbes, we sometimes get caught up in what our ideal life should be and feel distressed when reality doesn’t match our expectations.
That’s why even if a decision feels overwhelming, shame, embarrassment, or worry shouldn’t stop us from making it. Instead, forge ahead and make the change, as it could transform your life in the long run.
#16

I have 2 half sister from my dads first marriage and we all assumed we hated each other for the past 30 years and that's just how it was.
Snap to: dad needs a quadruple bypass, he's getting older so it's scary. We all come to town to be there for the surgery. I'm actually there for 9 days. Spending money I mostly don't have on a hotel, and going severely negative in PTO.
Waiting for recovery sisters and I actually get along and start talking. Cool. We like each other. Also, turns out dad has been telling us different stories about his health/financial situation for the past few years and kind of playing us against each other for longer than that. He's a jerk, but whatever, we will deal.
For the next TWO MONTHS I spend stupid amounts of time and money to go out to my dad's house every weekend to grocery shop/ meal prep/ clean/ set up appointments/ wash the dog, anything my dad and mom need.
He starts driving: 3 weeks before he's cleared to. I'm finding fast food wrappers in their trash. And he's slowly but surely undoing all of the cleaning and organizing I've been doing.
Bonus. One weekend we go out there: "mom isn't feeling well"
She has covid. They neglected to tell me she was sick before I went out there so I couldn't take any precautions.
I get covid. Lose out on 3 more days of PTO I straight up don't have.
Through ALL OF THIS I just deal.
What breaks me is. We noticed a check engine light on in their car. We tell them about it. Dad does nothing for another month then takes it to the dealership to get serviced. It's the glow plug unit. He IMMEDIATELY sends ME the bill for $2500 and says it's my fault for going over a speed bump too fast. It's a 20 year old car. I never took a speed bump too fast the four times I drove it. In fact I drove my parents around in my car 90% of the time I took them places.
So. Several months, literally thousands of dollars, time, effort, that my partner put in to help my dad's selfish incapable ungrateful jerk. And he sends me the bill for a problem I 1000% did not cause.
I blocked him and my mother immediately and haven't regretted it for a second since.
#17

After he left I immediately texted an old coworker and asked if they were hiring at her job. The next week I had an interview, got hired, and put in my two weeks at the old job.
In a way I'm glad he got mad at me. It gave me the courage to leave that stupid job since I was unhappy for awhile there. Now 1.5 years later I make $8 more an hour with a much better schedule and better coworkers.
#18

I told him, “I think it’s best we terminate this role for me”
He said “oh I can’t do that , but if that’s what you want…write it down on paper that you’re leaving”
I took that paper and wrote “I QUIT BECAUSE TIM IS A RAGING JERK WITH SMALL MAN SYNDROME AT 6’5””
He said “really?”
And I left and went to get some buffet with my fam.
We know Borders closed. Few months later I was buying something at toys r us and he was my cashier 😂 then toys r us went under 🤣.
When difficult circumstances keep coming in a person’s life, they might begin to define themselves by their problems. This can affect self-esteem, which is why professionals say it’s important to focus on how you handle obstacles rather than the trouble itself.
By focusing on the actions you can take, you can shape your identity and become more confident and self-assured. It can also make you feel in control of your life, rather than letting problems always have the upper hand. Take inspiration from the folks in this list to face issues head-on, rather than just sweeping them under the rug.
#19

One day he called about a hybrid battery. Yelled and screamed about how we were ripping him off. He was calling me names like stupid, idiot, worthless, on and on paired with threats to “take his business elsewhere”. I let him wear himself out like a toddler before plainly telling him I had discounted the battery as much as literally possible. I had no way to discount more, our system simply wouldn’t do it. I was at cost. He hung in on a rage.
My district manager called back and told me to input a specific code he gave me and made me sell it under our cost. Then was told we NEED to keep him as a customer and to just deal with it.
I clocked out, went to lunch at the tap room across the street. Two co-workers joined me. None of us went back that day. After about two hours the store manager sent me a text asking if I was coming back and I just said, I don’t think so.
His response: Understood. If you need a reference just let me know and I’ve got you covered.
#20
Maybe two days later, I would get a call from her asking why I wasn’t at work. I’d say I’m not scheduled, and she’d say “Well it was adjusted. It’s your responsibility to keep up to date.” That went on for like four weeks and I kept getting written up for being late or not coming in.
One day I came in after she *literally* yelled at me over the phone and she said hi like nothing happened. I ignored her and the Asst. Manager said “You’re just going to act like that because you messed up?” I ignored her too and went to clock in.
Maybe ten minutes later they pull me into the back office and ganged up on me saying I was rude and disrespectful and dishonest and irresponsible and I do this wrong and I do that wrong. I kept bringing up they change the schedule, only MY days, and don’t tell me. We’re going back and forth and I couldn’t do it anymore and left in the middle of the argument.
Maybe five days later the manager called asking if I was going to come in. I said “I don’t work there anymore.” Then the Asst. Manager got on the line and said they were under staffed and really need me. I hung up and blocked the number and that was our final conversation.


