If you're pretty, the whole world is at your feet – is that just an overly simplistic statement by insecure people or a universal truth about how unfair the world is? There is research to back up the latter. According to a 2023 study, attractive people can earn a salary that's 2.4% higher than that of "plain" people, proving that it pays to be attractive.
But money isn't the only thing that attractive people might get more of. Those who enjoy "pretty privilege" experience more benefits in all facets of life. Whether it's free drinks at a bar, calling a cab, or emotional manipulation, some things just come easier when you're deemed conventionally attractive. Bored Panda has found some first-hand stories from people who say that they have experienced "pretty privilege," and you can read the most surprising ones below.
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in my 30s random guys gave me free stuff ALL of the time w/o me ever asking them for anything...and not send over a drink...odd things, like free lottery tickets at the convenience store, free lighter at a gas station...in my 60s now...i couldn't get a man to pee on me if i was on fire.
"Pretty privilege" is proof that we, humans, are visual creatures. For decades, sociologists have found that attractive people have more advantages in life than those who are deemed "plain" or unattractive. They're more likely to be hired for jobs, receive promotions, and get higher salaries.
Dario Maestripieri, Ph.D., a professor of comparative human development, evolutionary biology, and neurobiology at the University of Chicago, theorizes that this phenomenon is all about the desire for physical intimacy. He uses salesmen as an example: people buy things from them because they think it increases their chance of sleeping with them. One needs only to remember why Danny Cordray was the top salesman at Dunder Mifflin.
how much men laughed at my jokes depended on my weight...inversely proportional
This might not make sense, but Maestripieri argues that it's how our brains are wired. "The male mind is designed in such a way when it comes to [intimacy] that heterosexual men will do anything to increase their chances to have [relations] with an attractive woman, no matter how small these chances are, and even if what they do only increases the probability from 0.01 to 0.015%," he writes for Psychology Today.
Women do it too, he argues, as it is an unconscious behavior. Most people are driven by the biological need to reproduce. It's undoubtedly weird that this need manifests in ways where we're more likely to give our money to people just because they're attractive, but hey, that's what pretty privilege is.
Beautiful people have an advantage even when they're borrowing money from the bank. A 2007 study found that attractive people are 1.41% more likely to receive a loan and be offered a lower interest rate by 81 basis points. However, this lending strategy often backfires on banks, as attractiveness does not correlate with creditworthiness. In fact, attractive people are three times more likely to default on their loans than their average-looking peers.
Attractiveness isn't always about physical traits. Daniel Hamermesh, a professor of economics at the University of Texas at Austin and author of the book Beauty Pays: Why Attractive People Are More Successful, told Business Insider that people are attracted to how a person carries themselves.
"Beauty may just reflect self-esteem," he posited. "Perhaps people's self-confidence manifests itself in their behavior, so that their looks are rated more highly, and their self-esteem makes them more desirable and higher-paid employees. [...] Beauty and the attractiveness of one's personality are positively related, and it is the general sparkle of one's personality, not one's beauty, that increases earnings."
The kindest people are well below the "i have everything & always will" line. But, are treated like trash. Tell me!?!? Does this make sense¡¿¡¿
True but I'm afraid it's far more deeply embedded than that. Attractiveness is seen by the subconscious as "good mating stock" and we are still ruled by our instincts. In the wild, a female of any given mammal species will avoid sickly or weak males. In our species they do too but we have misogyny as well, which the animals haven't developed yet.
Attractive people also have the upper hand in many social situations. Psychologists call this the "halo effect." Essentially, we deem attractive people kinder, more trustworthy, and more intelligent even when we have no evidence to support these claims. In the 1920s, psychologist Edward Thorndike coined this term, explaining how we assume a person has more positive traits after perceiving a single positive quality.
The very serious downsides to 'pretty privilege' greatly outweigh any positives. Having to deal with men physically stalking you and becoming obsessed to the point where you are forced to get a protective order, changes how you move through the world. What makes everything worse is people assume you don't struggle with anything and life is all sunshine and roses.
The "halo effect" isn't always about physical beauty, but, according to psychologist Kia-Rai Prewitt, PhD, it's where people notice it most. The opposite of the "halo effect" is the "horn effect." It refers to the tendency to see one negative quality in a person and assume that they must be in some way bad. In the world of dating, that can sometimes look like perceiving a less-attractive suitor on a dating app as "a creep," when they're a kind, funny, and thoughtful person in reality.
Have you ever experienced "pretty privilege," Pandas? Or maybe you've been a victim of the "horn effect?" Share your stories with us and your fellow Pandas in the comments! If you'd like to read more about "pretty privilege," check out our overview of the phenomenon here, and don't forget to read how "pretty privilege" affects men as much as women.
I worked with a guy who was named Thor. He was stunningly good-looking, and a lovely person to boot!
There must be a lot of dumb ppl out there. I've never given anyone a discount or something for free just because they're attractive. I have if they've been really nice or understanding.
Same and I am always super polite and understanding and respectful to service workers and servers because I’ve been one and know how the other people act towards them. They always seem shocked when there is an issue and I tell them it’s fine, I’m in no hurry and to do what they need to do to fix it because most expect someone to lose their mind over the slightest inconvenience
Load More Replies...I (F, average) worked with a Nordic goddess (tall, blonde, shapely, etc) for a few years. Men would walk right past me to ask her for help. At first I was amused, but then I realized the majority of the men never raised their eyes higher than her chest when speaking to her. How exhausting.
I used to envy pretty girls, but then I realised just how exhausting it must be. Lots more creeps as well
Load More Replies...There must be a lot of dumb ppl out there. I've never given anyone a discount or something for free just because they're attractive. I have if they've been really nice or understanding.
Same and I am always super polite and understanding and respectful to service workers and servers because I’ve been one and know how the other people act towards them. They always seem shocked when there is an issue and I tell them it’s fine, I’m in no hurry and to do what they need to do to fix it because most expect someone to lose their mind over the slightest inconvenience
Load More Replies...I (F, average) worked with a Nordic goddess (tall, blonde, shapely, etc) for a few years. Men would walk right past me to ask her for help. At first I was amused, but then I realized the majority of the men never raised their eyes higher than her chest when speaking to her. How exhausting.
I used to envy pretty girls, but then I realised just how exhausting it must be. Lots more creeps as well
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