People break up for a reason. And some break-ups can be nastier than others. The worst ones are where one partner cheats, lies, or worse – abuses – the other. In these cases, the other party might feel that it's quite appropriate to pay them back for the heartbreak and the disrespect.
The people in this thread shared some interesting and creative ways they got revenge on their exes. The question one person asked was "What is the worst thing you've done to an ex?" And people came in to share their revenge stories. From changed passwords to simply living a better life and finding a person who truly loved them, the answers certainly did not disappoint.
#1
Okay it was incredibly petty and definitely way less than he deserved but it was very satisfying. He was abusive over a few months I put money away and gradually pack a few essentials and arranged for my friend to pick me up at about 2am when he I knew he would definitely be at work. Before he left for work he had hit me me really hard. The abuse had gotten to a point where he didn't care about leaving visible marks. I was so angry and so done at this point that I went and poured out all his alcohol down the sink and stole all the light bulbs in his flat. So when he got home from work he had no lights and no alcohol to drink.
I now work with at a domestic abuse charity supporting people who are in my exact situation. If you see this and are struggling in an abusive relationship please reach out. There is so many people and charities who can help you, you are not alone
For those wondering I did go to the police and he was arrested. I had been documenting the injuries I got in a locked folder on my phone. This was so he couldn't see them and delete them. He did end up going to prison, he is currently still in he got 7 years for Grevious Bodily harm, Sexual assault and Coercive Control. My documenting of what he was doing to me played a huge part in his sentence. If you are in an abusive relationship please be careful documenting your injuries like I did. Whilst it was incredibly helpful in his conviction it can put you in danger. Make sure you upload them to the cloud and make sure every copy is in a locked folder with a different passcode to your normal phone passcode. I do not recommend having hard copies until you are out of the situation digital is much easier and safer to hide. Please remember your never alone and you are loved ❤️.
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#2
Scrubbed her from my socials. Erased 6yrs (2.5 married) of my life. Posts, comments, likes, photos….everything.
I’m a man and an abuse survivor. Men can be victims. Erasing my ex wife was extreme; she deserved it.!
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222points
#3
Replaced the number of the b***h he was secretly sending d**k pics to with the number of his mom in the contacts of his phone. Both had no profile pic. So he was doomed.
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Not all of the stories here are about revenge. Some people just shared the horrible things they did to their ex-partners before realizing how terrible they were in retrospect. Yet many are about revenge and getting back at exes. But does that really work? Can it actually make people feel better or is it just an illusion?
Generally, experts say that it's not particularly healthy to seek revenge against an ex, because it might cause more harm than good. However, the desire for revenge itself is quite normal. As clinical psychologist and marriage counselor Randi Gunther, Ph.D., explains, people hurt by their significant other feel powerlessness and rage.
#5
Called the cops on him.
He wouldn’t let me leave for a few days, and I really wanted to go home. One day, he took my car, my phone and purse and left the house to go buy some illegal s**t. I took the opportunity to run to a neighbors house and asked them to call the police. About 5 cop cars showed up as he was pulling in the driveway. He acted all innocent but I kept yelling at the cops that he wouldn’t let me leave. Told them this is my car, he has my possessions. They pulled him aside, and gave me the opportunity to get whatever I had to get and leave safely.
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#6
She cheated on me with a "friend" of mine.
Perhaps not the most mature thing to do, but from the moment I found out I haven't uttered a single word to her. I just up and left.
I'm not easy to anger and not a violent man, but honest to god. I don't know how I'd have reacted facing her, so I chose not to.
120points
"[Because of] loneliness and abandonment, they may be willing to risk everything in order that the justice they seek is done," she writes. But that quest for revenge most often hurts the one who seeks it the most. "They can no longer afford to care how they appear to others, what might happen to them if they continue, or whatever punishment they might have to endure once their revenge is achieved," Gunther explains.
There are also things other than yourself to consider. Friends and family can become collateral damage in some cases. And sometimes a revenge plan against an ex can even be unlawful – is the ex really worth the trouble with law enforcement? But, most importantly, it's about yourself – do you really want other people to see you behave this way? Wouldn't you rather be an example of rationality and logic?
#7
I dated a girl off and on in high school. She was the sort of psychotic girl where she liked to create drama just to have something “fun” to watch spread and talk about, regardless of how it affected peoples’ lives, including breaking up with me on a whim multiple times. I stayed and gave her multiple chances because, honestly, she was very attractive. I broke things off (messily, unfortunately) because I needed stability (and sanity) in my love life, and she didn’t speak to me again after that, until…
Almost a decade later, she Facebook messages me out of the blue and starts up her s**t again, saying, “Hey, I know you were really s**t to me years ago, but I’m going through some growth and want to forgive you and move on,” etc. Digging up her some imaginary BS to get a reaction out of people. Per the advice of my fiancée, I left a flat “Do I know you?” This. DESTROYED. Her. She responded with some more drama about how “I guess I’m the only one who cared” and left me alone for good.
Moral of the story: don’t f**k crazy.
120points
#8
I knew her Jersey Mike's rewards password. I waited until she built up a lot of points then went and got myself a free samich.
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118points
#9
I had an ex who was a d**g addict. His cycle was to sober up, until he was in a relationship. Then, he would relapse. We started dating and he had his own place, excercised, biked to work and my house. He was ripped. Then, little by little things changed. I had no idea. I ended up staying through 2 rehab stays. The last time he came out of rehab, he stole my paycheck, my car, etc I had moved to be closer to the last rehab. I almost got assaulted by his dealer, who came to my new place. I guess he let him know where we moved. I decided to finally leave and went into the military, which I had been putting off because he "needed support". So, I told him I would come to get him after I got out of training. I called him while I was gone in boot camp, etc. One time I called and a woman answered the phone. I lied to her and told her I was "calling all my friends from back home to tell them I was graduating boot camp/AIT". Asked to talk to him. When he got on the phone I immediately told him to tell me that he loved me. He wouldn't. I wanted to make him squirm. So, I asked him again. I heard him walk to the bathroom and flush the toilet(to cover up his voice), while he quickly said, "I love you!" Haahaa. I told him I "understood" that he needed someone to take care of him, and that this woman needed to be gone by the time I got back.(you get vacation time in between training and active duty to move your belongings to your duty station) And, that he would go to my active duty station with me.(We would fly there together) By the time I went on leave (like vacation in between training and active duty), he had gotten rid of his apartment, quit his job, and was waiting for me at the airport (because I told him my parents were too pi**ed at him for him to come to the house). Instead, I drove to active duty alone and never picked him up. Left him waiting there at the airport. F him.
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People turn to revenge because they're hurting and it's an automatic response to make the other person hurt as much as they do. However, mental health experts have some advice on how to deal with post-breakup feelings. Journaling can help, a study in 1997 found. When we write our thoughts down, it helps with cognitive processing. It helps us cope with such things as breakups.
#10
Petty as f**k but I told her that her favorite designer purse I had bought her was a fake.
It wasn't, obviously, but I heard she gave it away pretty quickly.
Some random person out there has a really nice genuine Saint Laurent bag and that makes me happy.
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107points
#11
I ordered surströmming fish and stuffed it in her curtain hangers after she cheated on me and poured remaining juices in her washing machine and left.
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101points
#12
I was working full time and taking evening classes so we didn’t spend as much time together which I guess gave her the green light to hook up with a co worker. We broke up and they immediately started dating. About a year later they got engaged. The summer after they got engaged I ran in to her and we talked for a bit. She admitted she still had feelings for me, I told her I did too. We ended up hooking that night. I didn’t actually have feelings for her anymore and on my way home I texted her fiancé (I had his number because he texted me and returned my stuff after the breakup) and told him I just hooked up with her. Engagement was called off and she had to move home. I don’t feel bad about it at all.
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The one user who answered "Got remarried to a nice person" is also on the right track. Because getting dumped makes you feel like you've been shamed and treated unjustly, doing things that improve your self-worth can help better than seeking revenge. For some, a new hobby or activity might help, like cooking, knitting, or dancing. For others – exercise, as it produces physiological changes that make us feel better. Others might find peace in meditation and other mindfulness practices.
#13
I sent everyone in my ex husbands family the pictures/videos of him sucking his cousins d**k among other things on new years. They do this every year and his cousin and him sent me pictures/videos one year.
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89points
#14
Was right behind her in the line at a store and I saw her eyes go wide when she saw me so I know she recognized me. Hadn’t seen her in about 10 years and she had let herself go so I pretended I didn’t recognize her.
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#15
We are both lawyers. I found out he cheated on me. I took his lawyer’s robes and hid them on a day I knew he needed them in order to appear in high court. He had to show up in front of the judge and try to explain why he didn’t have his robes.
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85points
#16
Not an ex, but one time I was talking to two girls from Tinder at the same time. Unbeknownst to me, they were best friends. They must’ve gotten to talking and realized they were talking to the same guy. They sent me a barrage of nasty messages, calling me a “f**kboy” and the like. I kind of just laughed it off and chalked it up as a loss.
A few hours later one of the girls texted me again. She said she wasn’t mad at me, just surprised that I would pursue someone “as ugly as her friend” and that she was still interested in meeting up for a date.
I took a screenshot of what she wrote, sent it to the other friend, and then blocked them both.
82points
#17
I was a repo man. Ex owed me money. Dealership also wanted their money.
Once she started ghosting me, I called and asked the dealership how much the car was worth to them. Came back the same night, hooked up her car, and took it back to the dealer.
Once she started ghosting me, I called and asked the dealership how much the car was worth to them. Came back the same night, hooked up her car, and took it back to the dealer.
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#18
I'll start the story off by saying this was revenge not just me wanting to do something because she was an ex.
Anyway, I dated a girl for a while in college and things were pretty good. She came to me one day about a class she was taking that had a creative writing project that counted for a good portion of her grade. She asked me if I would help her because the topic was too dark for her and she didn't want to put herself in that headspace. She had to write a story where she created a serial k**ler, she had to explain their childhood, how to the came to k**l, what motivated them, and how their story ended (caught, k**led, escaped, etc.) She just really didn't want to do that assignment and I was an English major at the time so I told her I'd just write it.
I wrote the entire story and found it interesting. She turned it in and ended up getting a 92 on it so she was really happy. I liked the story so much that I posted it on my profile on a short story website so friends and other people that liked my stories could read it. Fast forward a couple weeks I find out that she's been cheating on me with her ex from before we met, I was pretty livid.
I created a new email account with a pseudo name and I backdated the story on the website to a couple months prior. I emailed her professor and told her I was an aspiring short story author and I had friends at her college. I said someone told me that a student in his class had copied my work and submitted it for an assignment and I provided a link to my work as well as sending him pictures of the handwritten rough draft of the story.
It was all reviewed and she was expelled, she was less than a year from finishing her BA. I sometimes question if I went too far but at the end of the day I was in love with her at the time and she used me for her class while f*****g another guy behind my back.
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#19
Guessed her password (blink182) and deleted her MySpace.
62points
#20
My crazy ex boyfriend cheated on me multiple times when we were together. He never confessed to it. It was either his brothers telling me or me finding out from the girls. He would always blame me for cheating. The last 3 months of our relationship he had a new girlfriend and i didn’t find out till later. anyways I carved cheater on a pumpkin and put it infront of his house. Also apparently someone sent a h**ker to his house and he blamed me for it but it wasn’t me. But thank you whoever did that👏.
62points