Emotional labor - having to remember all the tasks in a family is work in itself. Having to remember birthdays, set up appointments, ask your partner to clean something, basically being the house manager is so exhausting. So many men just say “well why doesn't my wife just ask for help?”, not realizing that simply having to constantly ask and keep track of things is exhausting and not innate for many women.

A woman cut in front of my mom at a bakery when I was maybe 8. My mom didn't say anything, just quietly put her hand on my shoulder. On the way home she said "some people carry so little inside they need to take from others." I still think about that woman every time someone cuts in line. I hope her bread was stale.