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Having a best friend is something really special. You imagine they’ll always be by your side, and that no argument, distance, or major life change could ever come between you. Unfortunately, not every friendship is built to last.
On Threads, people opened up about the moments they realized their friend was secretly a hater, as well as the final straws that made them cut ties for good. We’ve gathered some of their painful stories below. Scroll down to read them and let us know your thoughts in the comments.
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#1
My son was about 5 years old and he has ADHD. My friend (no kids) came over to hang out. So son's playing on the floor with action figures, making noises and acting out big adventures.
She turns to me and says "Jesus Christ, can't you shut him up? He's freaking obnoxious." I said "See that door over there? Walk through it and don't let it hit you on your way out".
She said she couldn't believe I would end a 30 year friendship over a kid. But she walked out and we never spoke again.
Rose Stewart 16 hours ago
She was mad that a kid was doing normal kid activities? Completely valid to cut her out
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#2
The biggest one, we had a hangout shortly after I finally fled my toxic relationship.
She decided to tell me afterward that she sent pictures from the day of my child to my ex, because “a dad deserves to be kept in the loop” even though I was actively seeking a protective order that was granted a few weeks later. She knew.
#3
We went on a group trip, I had a good time. When we returned, I was “counseled” about all the things I did wrong… (didn’t sit at the group table the whole time, didn’t wake up early, playing pool too long, my man didn’t offer to hold someone’s bag) like WTF?! No wonder why you didn’t have fun, Y’all too busy watching ME. It’s weird and I’m OUT
Reading Regurgitated Nonsence 14 hours ago
Run run run. I had a friend who is like this. She seemed to dissect every single person she came across in life. I never understood why she hung out with people she only complained about afterwards.
#4
I had to cut her off due to her substance dependance.
I didn’t want to at all, and I was pregnant at the time. So she missed the most important moment in my life after being my prom date, going to each other’s graduations, etc.
Luckily, we are back to our old selves. She’s clean and I'm a mother. 12 years strong 💪🏾 ❤️
#5
Her victim mentality. Everyone is out to get her and she is NEVER the problem.
#6
Realizing that she’s really been a lying hater our entire 20 yr friendship.
“Friends” who are hesitant to celebrate you, compliment you or be happy for you are really just enemies with access.
Pawsome 3 hours ago
I had a friend like that. She was constantly making snide "jokes" out of jealousy. I got good grades (and worked my b**t off for them!), while she didn't. The whole time, I was helping her out with projects and her homework, even for classes that I didn't take. Over time, her behavior changed and she started openly mocking me. I had been having a lot of health issues at that point and slept around 3 hours a night. I was so exhausted that I couldn't even bring myself to care and she took it as an opportunity to mock me more and more openly. One time, I had not slept at all before an exam and when she saw me, she started talking to two of my classmates right in front of me and laughing about how I was finally going to fail. Well, jokes on them, my final grade was higher than their three grades combined. She was also going around telling others that I'm rich and spoiled because I had a Switch. I have worked since I was 16. I ended up just blocking her everywhere and moved on
#7
When she was texting my husband behind my back while visiting, he showed me immediately and said, “she’s not your friend.” Ended a 35 year friendship.
#8
Some of my best friends had to go simply because I had to grow. That involves clipping a few weeds out the garden sometimes.
#9
Cheated on his girlfriend. Thats a bye bye
Michael Largey 5 hours ago
The girlfriend of my best friend in college was going to be away for the weekend, and he had a one-night stand set up. But he needed my help. Out of loyalty to his girlfriend (whom I also considered a close friend), I refused. End of friendship. Of course, he told her and others all sorts of lies about me to explain the rift. Soon I noticed that I felt cleansed to be rid of him.
#10
I just started matching energy. The friendships fizzled out for those who didn’t actually put forth effort.
#11
She would get jealous of me hanging out with my own children 🫠
Also took every opportunity to cut me down. Everyone saw it years before I did.
I wish her the best in life, just from a different table.
#12
Telling my business to her friends when I been said your friends are not my friends and what I say to you shouldn’t be repeated. After the 2nd time she had to go. Cause that just told me she can’t be trusted and it’s some level of hate or envy there.
#13
I couldn’t stand being lied to. And if you can continue to cheat on your spouse. You most definitely don’t have my back! ✂️
Megalodon Meg 6 hours ago
My SIL recently asked me a question. Context: our family motto is essentially you don't f**k with my SIL. We all come to bat for her, me especially. I'm probably and proudly her most loyal guard dog. That being said, the question (in jest) was would I cover for her if she was cheating on my BIL. To her surprise my answer was still, f**k no. I'd d*e for this girl, in all honesty. But if she stepped out on my BIL I'd be the first in line to tell him.
#14
The final straw wasn’t betrayal.
It was the realization that every time something good happened to me, he got quiet.
Promotion? Quiet.
New house? Quiet.
Relationship going well? Quiet.
But let my life fall apart and he’d answer on the first ring.
Some people don’t love you.
They love having access to you while you’re struggling.
That was enough for me.
KatSaidThat 3 hours ago
change "my" to "their" and I'm getting the distress call even when you're not picking up for me. Someone just replied to a WA message from last month, apologising for not being in touch and then trauma-dumping again. It's been left on read.
#15
She just stopped responding to me. I messaged her, texted her, to no avail.
She was my very best friend & I still don’t know what happened.
No man has ever broken my heart like my best girl friends have.
Grape Walls of Ire 14 hours ago
Her best friend could have written one of these other posts about her.
#16
Emotionally never there for me but always expected me to Emotionally be there for them. Bye
#17
Called to tell me her child was inducted into an honor society. When they asked if my child made it, I could hear them hold their breath almost in anticipation. Sounded a little disappointed when I told them yes. Oh well. 🤷🏽♀️
#18
When I realized the friendship was one sided. When I stopped trying to keep in touch, never heard from her again.
#20
She was looking at my plate making sure I didn’t have more than her. I was looking at hers to make sure she had enough!
#21
I was told that not only did my best friend, the bride, claim that my speech was written by AI, even though I spent four months on it, she shared with me that people in her wedding party thought the same thing.
That just tells me you trash talk to me to your wedding party behind my back in addition to accusing me of using AI to write my MOH speech.. I’ve been writing poems since I was 12 years old and graduated with a degree in Journalism.. We graduated together..
#22
She outed me before I was ready to come out.
#23
When she said “I don’t know why God keeps saving you”…
Fellfromthemoon 9 hours ago
After the umphteenth daredevil stunt? She was right. After having a strike of unluck (losing job due to the economy, losing beloved ones, gotten hit by a natural cathastrophy, getting a bad diagnosis, etc?) She was the worst.
#24
Seeing how far they were willing to go for people they just met or have never met, and realizing they’ve never given a fraction of that effort to me.
SnowballHatesGoogle 1 hour ago
I know someone like this and I think part of it has to do with feeling unloved/unlovable and childhood trauma. At least for the person I know.
#25
She helped my ex husband snoop through my emails and messages after I told him I wanted a divorce.
#27
They tell on themselves. They bring the convo back to your lowest point repeatedly, even if you have improved and exceed their progress significantly. They are resentful towards your generosity. They try to turn your new friends against you. All because they enjoyed when they felt superior
#28
She stopped being my friend when I got with my now husband. She said “I want Michael” like i was going to hand him over to her🤦🏽♀️
#31
She treated me like a therapist. All one sided, always the victim, always dumping all her problems on me, expected me to have all the answers, but a total jerk (someone who always asks for advice but never takes it). One day she started up again and I suggested she seek professional help. I might as well as told her to jump off a cliff.
#32
She didn’t reach out after my dog passed away.
#33
My sister and I are twins, and our best friend at the time only wanted to go out. She got hella mad one time we just wanted to kick it and told us she only liked going out with us cause we are twins and we attract male attention. Never spoke after that
#35
When she called me "vain and conceited" in her maid of honor speech at my wedding.
#36
Welp. She told me she broke up with her boyfriend, took my good friend to my wedding as her date, slept with him and made him fall for her. I found out she had actually gotten secretly married, told her husband I hated him and didn’t want him at my wedding, and told their friends I was crazy and couldn’t handle knowing about her wedding so they had to keep it a secret. All just so she could have a fun night with my friend. That was it for me 🤣 too far.
astheshadowsfall 16 hours ago
Strains credulity, except, I have had the pleasure to have met some truly bat s**t wild crazy people in my life, so, I don't doubt the story.
#37
When her birthday came I did hair, went to get cake, I made sure she had what she needed.
When my birthday came I couldn’t get a happy birthday. She told me “she seen me living my life” bye girl.
#38
We'd been drifting for a while because she had a jealous spirit, but her social media replies during the George Floyd protests showed what she really thought about people like her "best friend"
KatSaidThat 2 hours ago
Yeah, there was a lot of unfriending from 2016 onwards, tbh. People outing themselves as racists, antivax, etc...
#39
She gossiped about my son's medical condition to people I don't even know as if it was an update to a new episode of Days of Our Lives, that pain was mine and mine alone to bear.
#40
Made her my maid of honor and she made everything about her. I figured she won’t reach these milestones on her own so she has to steal someone else’s. I’m glad she did not come to the wedding 😆
#41
She absolutely hated hearing any good news that I had to share. She didn’t have to say anything - her face and body language spoke volumes.
#42
I had started losing weight and she said “I gotta bring you some food so I can keep you fat.” She was a big woman too, and a coworker. 🫠
#43
When I went through a divorce: glowed up, lost a few lbs, got a great job for my career, found a cute place to live & was dating good looking successful men. She wasn’t having any of it. Lost her mind became insanely jealous. She befriended my X husband. 17 years of friendship gone. I never talked to her again. She did try & reach out a couple of years ago but I didn’t respond. Jealousy is an ugly disease.
Michael Largey 5 hours ago
If she wasn't friends with the husband when the OP and he were still a couple, suddenly launching a friendship is suspect. But if she was, is staying friends with both halves of a parted couple automatically a bad thing?
#44
She was too friendly with my man , had no boundaries, was in secret competition with me, tried copying my whole personality then she had the nerves to steal my ideas and act like it was hers and every prophecy I had became hers.
#45
When she told me her mom and her nicknamed my child after a chubby character. Rubbed me the wrong way bc her child didn’t have much weight on them, so when she told me it came off as jealous.. She is not my friend to this day. Bye ho
#46
Having low self esteem, no boundaries, no standards, & choosing men over herself
#47
When he'd try to change the subject Everytime I made the group laugh
#49
Victim mentality and creating false narratives of being bullied when anyone would have a simple disagreement. My last straw was when micro aggressions were used on me & other black women (she’s Hispanic).
#51
He was always happy and there when things were miserable, but not even that dependable. However, whenever it was an opportunity where it was my birthday or to celebrate me in someway, he just couldn’t bring himself to do it. He would downplay my birthdays, or he would just ruin them all together, if I had a big job win or a new job he would then accentuate how long it took me to find a new job, etc. there was so much more but I just can’t.
#52
Emotionally draining, no seld awareness and lacking empathy/emotional intelligence. I found myself constantly having to check her for saying something out of pocket to me or in general. I bowed out and of course I’m the problem now too.
#53
We’re no longer friends, it was when we both closed on a house, literally within months of each other, a year passed and she didn’t want to invite me over because her house was smaller. She admitted it and that is when I knew she wasn’t a friend she was competing.
#54
The talking behind my back, the disrespect and her trying to make me feel small. After all those years she still didn’t had a clue that I wasn’t a weak or insecure person. She wasn’t like that to begin with. After I told het I was done she and blocked her she send me a E-mail with: I never talked about you. I love you, you are my best friend… blablabla
#55
When she didn’t show up to my wedding dress fitting (in town) bc she had a “nail apt”…even worse than that lame excuse? She forgot i had her location….she wasn’t even at a nail apt. She was at Starbucks the whole 30 min fitting. She couldn’t make a 30 MINUTE FITTING, for her best friend of over 15 years. Who is 36, on her first marriage, finally found a man worthy…and she just left me hanging. It’s been 2 years and I’m still not over it.
Did I say that out loud? 3 hours ago
She may have been your best friend, it doesn't mean you were hers.
#56
When I tapped into my intuition, and realized that she was secretly trying to turn people against me without me being aware.
#57
With one - the silent competition. She bought the same dress I had, which I didn’t think was weird bc we had similar style. But when she became visibly upset that it didn’t look the same way on her that’s when I clocked the silent competition.
With another - when I expressed how her behavior hurt my feelings she DARVO’d me not once but twice & I was like “yup, that’s my cue to get out of this friendship”
Did I say that out loud? 3 hours ago
Deny,Attack, and Reverse Victim and Offender. I had to Goopple it. Basically, gaslighting.
#58
When a guy complimented me on a hoodie and she just had to say it’s hers ..🤣
Michael Largey 5 hours ago
Top be fair, she's the one who picked it out, so she's due some credit.
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tw 72 5 hours ago
Friend of many years got divorced so no longer had access to the money to support their desired lifestyle - they decided they should have access to MY money.
KatSaidThat 2 hours ago
I have just been cut out of my best friend's life because I told her that finding god and blaming him for her spiralling alcoholism is hypocritical (AA). I then followed up with links to organisations that do not require you to hand yourself over to god - Change Grow Live, etc. Asked if she wanted me to join her in the quest for sobriety. Got ignored. Last message telling her I just want her to be ok. Then I spoke to her ex-husband earlier this week and it transpires she is pushing him and their child away too so I told her she can do her worst to me but don't do that to them. I got blocked after that. We'll see how the year ends.
tw 72 5 hours ago
Friend of many years got divorced so no longer had access to the money to support their desired lifestyle - they decided they should have access to MY money.
KatSaidThat 2 hours ago
I have just been cut out of my best friend's life because I told her that finding god and blaming him for her spiralling alcoholism is hypocritical (AA). I then followed up with links to organisations that do not require you to hand yourself over to god - Change Grow Live, etc. Asked if she wanted me to join her in the quest for sobriety. Got ignored. Last message telling her I just want her to be ok. Then I spoke to her ex-husband earlier this week and it transpires she is pushing him and their child away too so I told her she can do her worst to me but don't do that to them. I got blocked after that. We'll see how the year ends.
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