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There are times when no matter how much you'd like to hit it off with someone, it's just not happening. Even if the two of you make sense as a couple on paper, the chemistry simply isn't there, and not even Marie Curie could fix it.
And then there are moments when attraction seems to sparkle, until they themselves snap you right out of it. To some, those sudden turn-offs—better known as "icks"—can be surprisingly powerful. So TikToker Jess (@jls_1003) asked women on the platform to describe the worst ones guys have ever given them. From the way they talked to how they kept their house, here are the ways in which men instantly ruined their chances.
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#1
I came home from work and my very inside dog was tied to a tree outside, bc “the dog was in his way” What. He had to pack his stuff and leave my apt expeditiously. He was never contacted again.
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#2
It was actually our first date. He literally fake proposed to me in the middle of a packed and tiny restaurant right after I told him I don’t like being the center of attention with people I don’t know “cause it’s just a funny prank”. I had to tell EVERYONE it was a joke, he went to the bathroom and I walked out. The waitress came running after me with my margarita in a to go cup and I never spoke to him again.
If we were to take a more quantitative look at the topic, we'd see that women are more familiar with "the ick" than men (63% vs. 39%) and are more likely to have experienced it (75% vs. 57%).
Experiencing the ick isn't an instant dealbreaker, but it's close. Data indicates that after experiencing the ick, 26% of people terminate the relationship immediately, while 42% end it a bit later.
That leaves 32% of people who continue the relationship despite the ick. Most do not share the experience with the person who caused it (only 28% do). However, nearly everyone shares it with someone else (92%), most often with friends (80%) or family members (50%).
#3
One time I was doubled over in pain on my period and he told me “every other woman deals with it why can’t you? I’m no expert but I’m sure it’s not that bad”
#4
Spoke on tinder for a week, offered to have coffee and he agreed. When I got there he was sitting with someone. Both the other guy and I were puzzled and the Tinder guy said he wanted to meet both of us to see who he liked more. Me and the other guy both left together and are we’re besties till this day.
#5
I was reading a menu at dinner after only knowing eachother a couple of weeks and he tapped my menu and said “look at me while I’m talking”. WHAT TF DID YOU JUST SAY?????
The most common icks for women about men are:
- Too feminine ("When he laid his head on my shoulder.") – 40%
- Publicly embarrassing ("Shazamming a song while he was in a nightclub.") – 28%
- Annoying speech ("Saying, 'Wow, without me?'") – 22%
- Fashion faux pas ("He wore jorts.") – 14%
- Misogynistic ("He loudly shushed another girl.") – 14%
#6
My dog absolutely HATED him. And my dog loved my husband immediately. Trust your fur babies ladies!
Giraffe Sitter 19 hours ago
This isn’t foolproof. My sister’s dog hates me and many other men. The other family dogs are my besties.
#7
He had zero soap at any sink and he had two kids 4 and 6. NO ONE was washing their hands!
#8
He called my dog ugly…blocked him on everything
#9
He p**ped in a hand towel and hid it under my bathroom rug instead of asking for more toilet paper
Research also shows that people who are easily disgusted by things like germs, bodily fluids, etc. (i.e., have higher disgust sensitivity) seem more sensitive to specific icks. However, this doesn't necessarily mean they experience the ick more often than others, just that they might be strongly affected by certain triggers. It's like having a sensitive smoke alarm – it might go off more easily with certain types of smoke, but not necessarily with all smoke.
We also know that people with an inflated sense of self-importance and a need for admiration (i.e., grandiose narcissism) are more likely to experience the ick. However, how often they experience the ick isn't necessarily higher. This suggests they're very selective. They might only get the ick when they perceive very specific flaws that threaten their high self-opinion or their partner's perceived status, but they don't get the ick over every little thing.
#11
He would say “question mark” every time he would ask a question. For example, “so what’s your favorite color? Question mark”
#12
We weren’t dating (yet) but we were talking almost daily…. He said “I can’t promise I won’t cheat on you but I’ll sure try not to do it.” Like byyyyeeeee
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"We've all got enough going on, and dating shouldn't feel like another deadline," said Melissa Hobley, Chief Marketing Officer at Tinder. "Singles are looking for a connection that feels easy, honest, and a little bit fun. They're done overthinking every message and overanalyzing every match."
"Dating should add a spark, not more stress. You can already see that energy in what's shaping 2026 — singles are saying exactly what they want, standing for what they believe in, and leading with honesty and openness. Being emotionally available doesn't make you cringe, it makes you interesting."
#13
Tried to give me pet care advice… I’m a veterinary technician. Him… a common folk
#15
ALWAYS said good girl to me, like bro please stop with that. Even said it in front of my mom one time. So so embarrassed
#16
He was obsessed with martial arts & anytime he saw someone wearing ADIDAS / MMA gear he’d start kicking & doing splits… in Walmart
#17
He kissed me so aggressively, I was legitimately dizzy, and when I searched my mouth for cuts, I found a piece of food, I hadn’t eaten.
#18
I went to the movies with him and there was a gentleman with special needs at the front, after walking away he broke out into laughter. I was disgusted, safe to say that was the last time I’d willingly see him
#19
He laughed when his friend made a joke about me. I hated him instantly. Done.
General Anaesthesia 12 hours ago
Jada, just give him the evil eye and he'll get up, walk to his friend and punch him.
#20
Went on a first date with a guy who I’d known for more than 7 years. Apparently he’d always had a crush on me and after a 4 years relationship I gave him a shot since he asked for “fair chance”. Anyway, date was very awkward since he mostly didn’t talk just looked at me. But that wasn’t the ick. He asked the waiter if he could pick the table. At first I thought cute, he wants privacy. I asked out of curiosity and he goes “I gotta have full vision of who enters and leaves the place. I’m carrying, since I always gotta protect who’s with me”. Strapped. At a bar….
Kristin 19 hours ago (edited)
I myself get bad anxiety if my back is turned to the door. I have to be able to see all my surroundings. Why? Cause I literally just walked out of the store, not even to my car yet and someone shot the store up unaliving 10 people. I know my reasoning is not even close to this haha
#24
Meowed on the regular for no reason out of nowhere I told him some bad news I was going through and he meowed and I got up and left
#25
wrote me a song after dating for a week. the first line was "I still remember when we first met".... a week ago?? I should hope so my guy
#26
He asked me "how long do those last?" referring to my 9yo German shepherd. Bonus points for him saying "oh so not that much longer" when I told him the average lifespan.
Caffeinated Ape 16 hours ago
"Longer than you if you don't leave immediately." Would be an ideal response, at that point.
#27
He brought me flowers, from a CEMETERY
Upstaged75 16 hours ago
That's not cool. Someone probably bought those for their d.ead grandma or something.
#28
Told me he was “soooo popular in highschool” he’s 26…
#29
He left [bodily fluids] streak on my fresh white sheets. And tried to say it wasn’t him. Sure the heck wasn’t me! Immediately blocked!
#30
We went bowling and he wore no socks. Put his feet in the rented bowling shoes
michael Chock 17 hours ago
Could have been a simple mistake on his part. Accidentally wore sandles on a bowling date and didn't want to cut it short for a dumb reason.
#31
I made him some spaghetti sauce before I left for work, all he had to do was cook the pasta. he called me five times asking how to boil the noodles and then he still had to call his mom and have her walk him through it
#32
Tried to play hide and go seek ON FT WITH ME and then started talking in a baby voice saying “you scwared mwe”
#33
He still lived with his mom and had custom made bunk beds that he shared with his older brother. after the tour he pulled out his guitar and sang to me in front of his entire family.
#34
went to his place for the first time. he had chewed waffle on his floor
#35
I went to pull out my chair on a first date and he went to go sit down in my chair.
Upstaged75 16 hours ago (edited)
😂😂 I wonder if he was just clueless or he was trying to make a point? Or he was simply rude?
#36
He said “Ouuuuh Charlette, got me all up in your web right now” mid bang and I just couldn’t ever look at him the same way again
#37
one time during an argument, i turned around and caught him flexing in the mirror
#38
He picked me up and his car smelled good so I asked what scent his freshener was and he points to the back seat and it's a LIT CANDLE
#39
He wore cowboy boots to our date, and when it came time to get down and dirty, I had to wait like what felt like 5 minutes for him to wrestle his d**n boots off, while his jeans were already at his ankles. Seeing a grown man lose a fight against cowboy boots really does something to ya.
#40
this isn’t a petty reason at all but i was obsessed with this man and in a situationship w him for over 9 months and one day he bit his toenails in front of me bc he “didn’t have clippers” i left that same day and never saw him again
Elladine DesIsles 18 hours ago
I don't think I've ever known an adult, AMAB person who could get his toes to his mouth. I'd be absolutely disgusted, but also oddly impressed.
#41
pushed me down the stairs for laughing that he made his hot chocolate with water, instead of milk.
Elladine DesIsles 18 hours ago
Pushing anyone down stairs (assuming they are not physically attacking you) is obviously unacceptable. But boiling water is how instant hot chocolate is made. Substituting milk with water is also a common response to living in poverty. Either way, formative habits that could easily have carried over to making stovetop cocoa in a more financially stable adulthood, and undeserving of scorn.
#42
kept telling me how poor he was. I’m not a material girl money isn’t a big deal but i would say like “oh yeah my brother got me a gift” and he goes “i could never do that i’m too poor for that” like okay???
Alexandra 9 hours ago
Could just be him wanting to tell you not to expect too much from him. Could just be him wanting you to pay things for him. Could just be him not being poor at all but wanting a reason not to buy you anything. However that is, if he mentions it all the time, that would rub a lot of people wrong.
#43
Had a full blown tantrum about he was breaking out because his dad used the wrong detergent for his sensitive skin… he was 27, and that’s how I found out he lived with his parents.
random_froggg (she/they 86/47) 19 hours ago
I don’t blame adults for living with their parents in this day and age, but that doesn’t mean you get to act like a child!
#44
Complained about literally everything. You are a man take care of it. Find a solution it’s not the end of the world.
#45
met my family for the first time and asked "so, how old is everybody?" why the hell would you ask that? the cherry on top is after they left he made a joke about how now he cant choose between me or my mom
#46
He called meat (chicken, beef etc.) “flesh”. I couldn’t handle this
Justin Case 18 hours ago (edited)
I used to work for a guy who was vegan and referred to meat as "a hunk of déad flesh". One time he asked me to work late. I said I could, but I really needed to go get something to eat. He said that if I continued working, he would go to the restaurant and get a sandwich for me. Then he asked me what kind of sandwich I would like. I said "I don't care, just get me something with a hunk of déad flesh on it."
#47
Was a picky eater. Like chicken tendies and fries at an upscale restaurant picky.
#48
he sent me a snap of him aggressively eating a cold family size can of green beans straight from the can while smiling at the camera.
#49
Brought me an oatmeal raisin cookie from the cookie platter instead of a chocolate chip cookie because it was “healthier”.
#50
Told me he was in a "h*e phase". We are in our early 30s.
#52
Said “ I was gonna get you flowers”
#53
he tried to rap the lyrics of a song while making eye contact w/ me and he kept messing up the words
#54
One time I went on a date with a guy named Daniel but preferred to be called Rick. I thought it must’ve been a middle name and THEN he signed the credit card receipt Rick Grimes. Not even joking
Upstaged75 16 hours ago
That's a character from The Walking D.ead. Or just to annoy Maudelin I'm going to call it The Walking Unalived. 😁
#56
Wore jelly shoes. Bright blue ones. With socks. I really wish I was joking but I’m not
Daya 16 hours ago (edited)
I had to look up for pics because I have never heard of them. They are literally 'Wassersandalen' (water sandals) we had as kids so we wouldn't hurt our feet with sharp stones and shell fragments of mussles. I didn't know that they are still existing and they even come in adults' sizes.
#57
Told me he usually goes after baddies but they don’t have personality, but I have a really cool personality. Wild
#58
He kept falling. Like just kept falling. And was freakishly tall and skinny so it was even weirder. And he’d just sit on the floor after and give puppy eyes like a little kid. Yucked me out so quick
Lady Gypsy Rain 16 hours ago
I fall all the time. But there are medical reasons why. And I don’t give puppy dog eyes after I fall. I also rarely cry even from intense pain, so my reaction is either I holler on my way down and just slowly work my way back up or ask for help if the fall was bad and I am having difficulty moving. I would hate for someone to hold that against me but also understand not everyone can cope with the realities of aging and spinal damage.
#59
his rug in the living room was fake grass..
#60
He kept saying “remind you” instead of “mind you” I corrected him and we never spoke again.
random_froggg (she/they 86/47) 18 hours ago
Sounds like they weren’t a good match anyways if that’s all it took
#61
would ask me to send fit checks then send a longggg video barking back at me and saying sorry mommy in between
#62
He types “wuh about you” instead of what about you, bcos instead of because. I was irritated
#63
I told him if he was going to be disrespectful then we are done and he said “give me one time I was disrespectful” then burped
Lytsedraak 12 hours ago (edited)
Need context on the burp. On purpose, mouth open? Disrespect. Closed mouth or covered? Can't really stop bodily functions.
#64
the way he held his fork or spoon overhand like a small child.
Elladine DesIsles 18 hours ago
Another common neurodivergent behaviour, not necessarily childish.
#65
he replied to a text by saying "teehee"
#66
We were in Hawaii…. And went on a snorkeling excursion. He had to use a floatie and wouldn’t swim under water…. But I was swimming and diving and I looked up and saw his skinny little legs kicking about holding onto the floatie and I absolutely could not ever sleep with that man again. It was a long plane ride home
#67
While driving he accidentally shifted to N- freaked out and didn’t know what to do… I shifted back to drive and he asked how did I know that… like what??? lmao broke up with him the next day cause my dad would neverrrrr
#68
He would drink protein shakes and his breath smelled like milk all the time. One night he was laying next to me and I literally flipped the lights on and sat up and asked him to leave bc his presence was giving me anxiety
Lytsedraak 12 hours ago
Milk doesn't smell too bad, but doesn't brushing teeth before going to bed get rid of the smell?
#69
He came to pick me up wearing a fedora. I told him I left something in my house & never came back
#70
He was eating his “healthy snack” tuna… laughed at a joke and accidentally spit the tuna in my eye.
random_froggg (she/they 86/47) 18 hours ago
A gross, unfortunate accident, but an accident all the same
#71
When I texted him about something bad that happened he replied with "*cuddles you*"
#72
He had a porche but his seats were wrapped in cow print sheets with pink spots
What do you think ?
Nota Robot 15 hours ago
I mean, a lot of those posts are so shallow that they are very nearly bumpy.
Paul Rabit 6 hours ago
I guess you can't post 73 reasons to get the ick without having your fair share of stupid and shallow...
Michael Fernandez 8 hours ago
Some of these are incomprehensible, whether from new idioms / slang or from bizarre behaviors. I think it’s time to admit that I’m old.
Nota Robot 15 hours ago
I mean, a lot of those posts are so shallow that they are very nearly bumpy.
Paul Rabit 6 hours ago
I guess you can't post 73 reasons to get the ick without having your fair share of stupid and shallow...
Michael Fernandez 8 hours ago
Some of these are incomprehensible, whether from new idioms / slang or from bizarre behaviors. I think it’s time to admit that I’m old.
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