You may think that the newlywed phase is one of the easiest times in a marriage. But sometimes it’s the opposite. They say it’s all bliss, breakfast in bed, and gazing lovingly into each other’s eyes while you fold laundry together. But if you’re living in the real world, you know the reality is a little different. If you’re trying to figure out budgeting, living in a small apartment together, or merging finances, arguments can easily arise. Sometimes, it’s less The Notebook and more “Who left the wet towel on the bed again?” If you feel like you’re bickering more than you’re snuggling lately, it might not be what you’re fighting about; it’s how you’re operating. We all slip into bad habits that act like invisible gasoline on small sparks. Here are 9 common relationship habits that might be sneaking into your marriage, and how to kick them to the curb before they escalate.