Maturing is realising that as a woman, casual sex (especially when you have sex with men), does absolutely nothing for women,” wrote one woman in a recent viral tweet. Her reasoning? Well, most men, she argues, don’t care enough about a woman’s wellbeing, nor do they behave well enough to deserve to be sleeping with them in the first place. There are no taxis home. No thoughtful phone calls. And, more often than not, no orgasms. With this in mind, the woman went on to ask: “What does casual sex, on the whole, do for women?”
It’s a good question – and if you ask it on TikTok, many will tell you about uneven power dynamics between men and women, and how it prevents them from enjoying heterosexual sex outside of romantic relationships. “It’s now more in women’s interest to imitate masculine sexuality and to have sex like a man and, moreover, to present that as being feminist,” explains the author Louise Perry in one video. She goes on to agree with the person interviewing her that, generally speaking, casual sex is making women unhappy. “This will sometimes be chalked up to particular men behaving badly or will be ascribed to s***-shaming.”
