When I was in my final year of college, I went on my first ever date with a guy I really liked. He was extremely lovely, funny and attractive too (all boxes ticked). However, the timing wasn’t great – my mental health was in the gutter and I was concerned about doing long distance as we were both going to different universities in a couple of months. As a result, we never moved out of the talking phase – it was mutual, but I blame myself for putting barriers up. I’m now in my mid-twenties and I’m in a really good place mental health-wise, but I can’t stop thinking about him and what could’ve been. As I said, he ticked all of my boxes. For me, timing was the issue. We have loads of mutual friends and are connected on social media, so it feels like he’s never fully fallen out of my life. So, what do I do? Part of me wants to reach out to gauge whether or not he’s interested but, then again, this idea of him being Mr Right is all in my head... there’s a high chance that he’s not given our date a thought since we went on it. Do I strike up a conversation with him and risk rejection/mutual friends finding out that I’m interested (which would be mortifying); or do I move on with my life?
