I’ve only looked through a boyfriend’s phone twice in my dating lifetime. Both times, I found exactly what I was looking for. And both times, I was the recipient of what I now know is The Fool’s Victory™ – the perfect tragicomedy of finding precisely what you’re looking for, to your very own horror and devastation.
Legal proceedings these are not, which is why confronting a partner in this situation robs you of whatever righteousness there is to be had at uncovering such deceit. It becomes a whole big thing, a losing battle between the “I can’t believe you went through my phone” defendant and the “I can’t believe you’ve been hiding a secret relationship with a 19-year-old for several months” plaintiff.
