Polly Hudson’s article extols the benefits of grievances, mostly for retaining her sanity and self-esteem (Don’t tell me it’s wrong to hold a grudge. I’m making the world a better place, one petty boycott at a time, 5 July).
Holding grudges can be an elegant art form, but it is also a sign of the amount of self-regard one has. The commitment required can be a marathon effort, involving extra work, mileage, expense, inconvenience and “missing out” – all in the name of valuing one’s own “worth”. It is tiring, but even more so for others caught up in it. It can also be futile if the target is never aware.
