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It is incredibly bad taste to overshadow the happy couple and steal their thunder at their wedding. However, in some cultures, it is considered bad luck to kick a guest out, even if their ego, entitlement, and toxicity are ruining the celebration and upstaging the bride.
One guest went viral online after sharing how a wedding took a truly bizarre turn after the bride’s cousin dressed the same as her, and even got her own ‘bridesmaid’ to follow her around for the photos. Scroll down for the full story and the internet’s reactions.
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The worst thing you can do during a wedding is overshadow the bride with your outfit
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A wedding guest spilled the tea about how the bride’s cousin put her ego on full display, making the entire celebration about her
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Set your ego aside for one day, and listen to the happy couple for outfit ideas
A good rule of thumb to keep in mind when going to anyone’s wedding—or any other big event, to be honest—is to set your ego aside for the day. If the event isn’t meant to celebrate or honor you in some way, take the back seat. Be supportive, try to avoid drawing too much attention, and show your love to the people who are meant to be in the spotlight.
This doesn’t mean that you can’t be your ‘authentic self,’ but it does mean that you should try to be as emotionally intelligent as you can. If you know that you have a loud, brash, energetic personality that you know always keeps the spotlight on you, it might be best to let someone else enjoy all the attention for some time. Of course, this requires a level of self-awareness that some people don’t have. Especially those who struggle with narcissism and entitlement.
According to ‘Brides’ magazine, wearing white to a wedding isn’t recommended unless the happy couple specifically requests you, their guest, to do it. The same goes for white outfits with prints or floral appliques. And if you’re unsure if your outfit (which is gorgeous, by the way) is too white, it’s safer to choose another color. The goal is to avoid overshadowing the bride and not offending the couple.
The same etiquette guidelines apply in other situations, too. Unless your local wedding culture or traditions permit it or the bride asks you to wear outfits just like her’s, don’t add unnecessary drama to an already stressful day.
Narcissists tend to feel unique and superior to others and want special treatment even if they don’t actually deserve it. They want to be praised, admired, and respected for their supposed importance, achievements, and talents, which are exaggerated to say the least.
Healthy boundaries are there to protect you, and narcissists absolutely hate it if you set them
They believe that regular rules and social norms apply to other people, not them. And they always put their needs first, insisting that everyone listen to their wishes.
In short, they are entitled, manipulative, arrogant, lack empathy, and have an obsession with power, beauty, success, and being admired. Moreover, they tend to think that either other people are envious of them (we assure you, we’re not) or they themselves feel lots of envy for what others have.
That’s not to say that narcissists are doomed to ruin their lives (and ours) forever. Some narcissists can improve by learning to spot their behavior and, over time, changing how they react and respond. Reaching out to a therapist is invaluable here.
However, the paradox is that spotting your own narcissistic behavior patterns already requires a level of self-awareness and humility that’s needed to recognize the problem and seek help in the first place. Most narcissists won’t seek help because it would ruin their self-image as this awesome, inculpable demi-god.
When you’re dealing with a narcissist, setting healthy boundaries is one of the best tools in your arsenal. Narcissists tend to hate boundaries, but it is not your job to control their emotions, warns licensed clinical social worker Kimberly Perlin.
What’s your take on this spicy wedding drama, Pandas? How would you react if a fellow wedding guest tried to steal the spotlight from the happy couple on their Big Day? What would you do if you were getting married and one of your relatives decided now was the best time to flaunt their inner narcissist?
Meanwhile, what are the very worst wedding guests you’ve personally witnessed, and how did the drama unfold? Share your wedding stories and opinions in the comments below. We can’t wait to hear your thoughts.
Readers were utterly shocked that anyone would have the nerve to behave this way at a wedding
Here’s how other internet users reacted to the weird wedding drama. Some even had practical advice to share
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UnclePanda 1 day ago
I made a few calls and all deities contacted do not consider duct taping someone in the fetal position and tucking them in the recycle bin until next Tuesday to be a bad omen.
moggiemoo 1 day ago
Recycling bins, in my experience, are clean. I would suggest a bin out the back of a restaurant.
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Tabitha 1 day ago (edited)
Spill anything that stains on each dress, or step on the skirt if it’s long enough, or the train (wedding gown train) so hard the dress rips from the seam at her waist. I also like the idea of the toddler with chocolate hands and face told to go hug Aunty who has treats hidden in her dress. If there’s a big enough water feature at the venue, she could be made to “accidentally” fall into it—-not just ruining the dress, but her hair and makeup too. Maybe another child relative could be given scissors and told to sneak up behind Aunty, grab a handful of hair from the middle of her hairdo, and cut it off. Or if scissors are too risky, give the kid a large glass of Coca-Cola or something staining and sticky, and tell them we’re pranking Aunty, and to sneak up behind her when she’s sitting down, and dump it all out on top of her head. Guess you can tell I have encountered way too many arseholes in my life, and can come up with lots of ways to put them in their place—-loudly and publicly, and deservedly so. Especially now that I am old and have no f u cks left to give, I love sticking pins in overinflated egos and watching them flap around helplessly—-just like they made the people they a****d do. Also, I would want verification that this cousin actually IS wealthy. I have heard of, and actually had myself, relatives who held their “fortunes” over the heads of their relatives so they could get special treatment, be waited upon and deferred to, and treat the rest of the family (especially the ones who want to be in the will) as slaves, only to find out when they d*e or become so incapacitated that they need someone to have POA over their “estate”, that they don’t have one thin dime, that they may have been rich at some point, but they lost it long ago and lied to everyone. Maybe rich cousin isn’t entitled, but just a lying and egotistical biatch.
Binky Melnik 1 day ago
It’s an African wedding; all the Africans in my neighborhood (Côte d’ivoire and Ghana, mostly) wear the most CRAZILY beautiful patterned things! No amount of things poured on them will even show unless the dress is predominantly a light color. I have yet to see ANY of them in a solid color. Unless someone has a can of paint, I’m not sure their dresses can be ruined. (I’m sooo glad someone identified the area, as I was beginning to think I’d lost my mind! I can’t even imagine all the work it takes to change dresses all day!)
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Janelle Collard 1 day ago
Someone with an entire glass of red wine needed to do a "trip and spill" on that Karen's clothes each time she came out in a new dress. I agree with the comments, "If it's *also* her day, she needs to chip in for expenses."
UnclePanda 1 day ago
I made a few calls and all deities contacted do not consider duct taping someone in the fetal position and tucking them in the recycle bin until next Tuesday to be a bad omen.
moggiemoo 1 day ago
Recycling bins, in my experience, are clean. I would suggest a bin out the back of a restaurant.
Load More Replies... Tabitha 1 day ago (edited)
Spill anything that stains on each dress, or step on the skirt if it’s long enough, or the train (wedding gown train) so hard the dress rips from the seam at her waist. I also like the idea of the toddler with chocolate hands and face told to go hug Aunty who has treats hidden in her dress. If there’s a big enough water feature at the venue, she could be made to “accidentally” fall into it—-not just ruining the dress, but her hair and makeup too. Maybe another child relative could be given scissors and told to sneak up behind Aunty, grab a handful of hair from the middle of her hairdo, and cut it off. Or if scissors are too risky, give the kid a large glass of Coca-Cola or something staining and sticky, and tell them we’re pranking Aunty, and to sneak up behind her when she’s sitting down, and dump it all out on top of her head. Guess you can tell I have encountered way too many arseholes in my life, and can come up with lots of ways to put them in their place—-loudly and publicly, and deservedly so. Especially now that I am old and have no f u cks left to give, I love sticking pins in overinflated egos and watching them flap around helplessly—-just like they made the people they a****d do. Also, I would want verification that this cousin actually IS wealthy. I have heard of, and actually had myself, relatives who held their “fortunes” over the heads of their relatives so they could get special treatment, be waited upon and deferred to, and treat the rest of the family (especially the ones who want to be in the will) as slaves, only to find out when they d*e or become so incapacitated that they need someone to have POA over their “estate”, that they don’t have one thin dime, that they may have been rich at some point, but they lost it long ago and lied to everyone. Maybe rich cousin isn’t entitled, but just a lying and egotistical biatch.
Binky Melnik 1 day ago
It’s an African wedding; all the Africans in my neighborhood (Côte d’ivoire and Ghana, mostly) wear the most CRAZILY beautiful patterned things! No amount of things poured on them will even show unless the dress is predominantly a light color. I have yet to see ANY of them in a solid color. Unless someone has a can of paint, I’m not sure their dresses can be ruined. (I’m sooo glad someone identified the area, as I was beginning to think I’d lost my mind! I can’t even imagine all the work it takes to change dresses all day!)
Load More Replies... Janelle Collard 1 day ago
Someone with an entire glass of red wine needed to do a "trip and spill" on that Karen's clothes each time she came out in a new dress. I agree with the comments, "If it's *also* her day, she needs to chip in for expenses."
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