HISTORICAL FACTS: 4 - The Untold Story

I’m in my 30s and own my home. How can I share my good fortune with friends?

You’re very generous, but your friends may feel uncomfortable about accepting your help and want the satisfaction of making it on their own

The Guardian - UK · Apr 27, 2025

My sister gets into toxic fights with my mother. How can I help?

The first priority must be the safety of the most vulnerable – your mother and your sister’s children

The Guardian - UK · Apr 18, 2025

My father threw out my box of memories, then took his own life. How do I move on?

Your sadness at losing reminders of happier times may have been heightened by the traumatic loss of your dad

The Guardian - UK · Apr 11, 2025

‘My mother-in-law sent me an insulting text intended for someone else. Should she apologise?’

It’s important you and your husband present a united front to his mum, and if she upsets you, you must learn to shut yourself off from her

The Guardian - UK · Mar 7, 2025

My partner’s unresolved grief is putting a strain on our relationship

Feeling sadness is essential for feeling happiness, but unlearning the avoidance mechanisms your partner has put in place may take time

The Guardian - UK · Feb 28, 2025

My partner and I argue constantly – and she puts all the blame on me

It’s very rare that one individual is wholly responsible for the difficulties in a relationship. Perhaps you should go to counselling alone, where you can be heard

The Guardian - UK · Feb 21, 2025

My sister is stressed and distant. I want to help but don’t know how

As the older, ‘parentified’ child, it sounds like your sister has taken on extra responsibilities all her life. She might appreciate you wanting to show you care

The Guardian - UK · Feb 14, 2025

I lost my partner, but our relationship was a secret so I can’t talk to anyone

You need to process your grief by letting other people in. That means telling them about it

The Guardian - UK · Feb 7, 2025

I want children but my partner now says he is not keen. Should I go it alone?

I don’t think it’s fair your partner uses his past relationship to dictate the present with you. You need to have an open and honest conversation to understand each other’s feelings

The Guardian - UK · Jan 31, 2025

My partner wants an open relationship, but is also jealous of my friendships with women

You both appear insecure and are cultivating jealousy in each other. You must focus on building trust for the sake of your child

The Guardian - UK · Jan 24, 2025