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The Guardian - UK
The Guardian - UK
Lifestyle
Philippa Perry

YOU WONT BELIEVE: Why do i keep falling in love with totally unavailable people - You Need To See This

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‘I’ve fallen in love with a married straight guy 10 years my junior and I can’t stop the intensity of my feelings for him – it’s agony.’ Photograph: Daisy-Daisy/Getty Images/iStockphoto

The question I’m at my wit’s end. I’m a 50-year-old gay man and I’m in a happy, long-term relationship. But I’ve fallen in love with a married straight guy 10 years my junior. He’s a new colleague at work. We get on well and have struck up a companionable working relationship, but my feelings for him have become deeper – and it’s agony.

I’m not an idiot. He’s married with young children and I know nothing is going to happen. I don’t think I’d even want it to, but I just can’t stop the intensity of my feelings for him. He’s a kind, thoughtful man, which somehow makes it worse. I couldn’t bear it if he found out I was secretly harbouring lustful or amorous feelings for him.

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