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I asked my partner to name me as his beneficiary. He says he will but has not. What can I do?

It is possible he does not want to make this change, writes advice columnist Eleanor Gordon-Smith. Is there another way to give you peace of mind?

The Guardian - AU · Sep 26, 2024

My 80-year-old dad is unrealistic about his future. Why can’t he move into a retirement village?

It is difficult for adult children to navigate these changes, writes advice columnist Eleanor Gordon-Smith. But it is difficult for your father too

The Guardian - AU · Sep 19, 2024

My wife’s drinking is way over guidelines but she never loses control. What do you suggest?

Alcohol consumption can be hard to talk about, but trying to subtly change your wife’s behaviour without explaining why is likely to make her bristle

The Guardian - AU · Sep 12, 2024

My adult son has moved back home and is behaving like a teenager – and I’m deeply unhappy

You can be silent or have a confrontation – and both options sound awful, writes advice columnist Eleanor Gordon-Smith. But now is the time to switch abstract wishes for a concrete plan

The Guardian - AU · Aug 2, 2024

My long-term partner says he wants an open relationship. I understand why, but it feels one-sided. What should we do?

One question to ask is how this arrangement might feel for you, writes advice columnist Eleanor Gordon-Smith. Whatever you decide, it’s important not to constantly feel like this is an open question

The Guardian - AU · Jul 25, 2024

How people vote affects my life and relationships – how do I explain that to my apolitical friend?

It would be weird to associate only with those who agree with us, writes advice columnist Eleanor Gordon-Smith. But we do eventually have to take responsibility for life’s editorial decisions

The Guardian - AU · Jul 18, 2024

I feel despair about the state of the world. How can I find the courage to not abandon hope?

Hope is something we choose – and sustain for the sake of others, writes advice columnist Eleanor Gordon-Smith. Seek out others who are looking for reasons to keep going

The Guardian - AU · Jul 11, 2024

My daughter visits daily since her partner left her. How can I reclaim my space without offending her?

It’s a testament to your parenting that your daughter feels she can hide with you, writes advice columnist Eleanor Gordon-Smith. While time helps to heal, seek out ways to share the load

The Guardian - AU · Jul 4, 2024

Our neighbours never return my son’s ball when it goes over the hedge. How can I get it back without conflict?

Your neighbours may see the matter as disrespect in projectile form, writes advice columnist Eleanor Gordon-Smith. An apology, a request and a direct conversation is better than petty revenge

The Guardian - AU · Jun 27, 2024

Afternoon Update: couple plead not guilty to Amber Haigh murder; First Nations elders oppose nuclear plan; and South Korea considers arming Ukraine

Robert and Anne Geeves face court over the suspected killing of Haigh, who disappeared in June of 2002

The Guardian - AU · Jun 21, 2024