Humanist weddings are deeply personal and meaningful Letter: Mair Garland responds to an article by Rachel Connolly on what makes a good ceremony these days The Guardian - UK · Aug 2
What makes a good wedding these days? I say flirting and chaos, but not three days in a French castle Modern weddings seem to have become all about the spectacle – although, if you do take the opulent route, I still want to come, says writer Rachel Connolly The Guardian - UK · Jul 29
The problem with ‘loneliness influencers’ isn’t their friendlessness – it’s the air of cosy defeatism Most of us will experience periods of solitude at some point. But beige furnishings and self-care rituals are not the answer, says writer Rachel Connolly The Guardian - UK · Jun 15
The hill I will die on: Being late can be the height of good manners and decorum, actually Instead of seeing etiquette as a set of categorical rules, we should recognise that poor form can actually have good consequences, says writer Rachel Connolly The Guardian - UK · Dec 24, 2025
I don’t like dating apps – I went to a ‘flirting party’ instead It was me and 150 other millennials and gen Zers in Los Angeles. What could go wrong? The Guardian - US · Sep 30, 2025
Why fear the tote bag-wielding, matcha-drinking ‘performative male’? At least he makes an effort So-called experts are warning women about men who try too hard to look like feminists. There are worse red flags than that, says writer Rachel Connolly The Guardian - UK · Aug 29, 2025
I don’t plan to have children. That doesn’t mean I want them banished from my life As Britain’s birthrate falls, hostility towards children in public spaces seems to be rising. That’s sad for all of us, says writer Rachel Connolly The Guardian - UK · Jul 13, 2025
The Clooneys never argue. In a fantasy world of riches and beauty, I wouldn’t either For us mere mortals, a relationship free of quarrels is a pipe dream. But that doesn’t have to be a bad thing, says writer Rachel Connolly The Guardian - UK · Apr 27, 2025
‘Heteropessimism’ didn’t spring from nowhere Letters: Josephine Grahl advises looking at the labour burden placed on women and how social structures enforce this. Brid Connolly recalls Marge Piercy’s novel Body of Glass The Guardian - UK · Apr 3, 2025
Social media is awash with ‘heteropessimism’. Do young women really think so poorly of men? The cliche of the loutish, emotionally inadequate boyfriend is everywhere. The truth, as always, is more complicated, says novelist Rachel Connolly The Guardian - UK · Mar 31, 2025
I’m used to outsiders mangling Belfast’s history. So Say Nothing was a breath of fresh air The adaptation of Patrick Radden Keefe’s book isn’t flawless – but it doesn’t airbrush the complex, messy story of the Troubles, says writer Rachel Connolly The Guardian - UK · Nov 18, 2024
Furniture to assemble? There’s an app for that – because no one wants to do anything for themselves any more We can now endlessly outsource our small tasks, from shopping to DIY. But I really would rather do them myself, says journalist Rachel Connolly The Guardian - UK · Sep 3, 2024
Wildfire smoke linked to thousands of premature deaths every year in California alone When wildfires rage, the immediate threat is obvious – but smoke from the fires actually kills far more people than the flames. The Conversation · Jul 8, 2024
Wildfire smoke prematurely killed over 50,000 Californians in a decade – study Exposure to toxic particles also led to $432bn in health expenses between 2008 and 2018 The Guardian - US · Jun 7, 2024
The Guardian - UK · Sep 1, 2023 Lazy City by Rachel Connolly review – sex, drugs and ennui in Belfast Melancholy permeates a sardonic tragicomedy in which the hangover of the Troubles is never far from the surface
The Guardian - UK · Aug 27, 2023 Lazy City by Rachel Connolly review – wry portrait of a city A skilful debut novel paints a nuanced picture of Belfast and a grieving young woman’s search for something to believe in
The Guardian - UK · Aug 9, 2023 So long ‘immersive Van Gogh’: we deserve better than this cynical and elitist approach to art We never needed projection gizmos and expensive tickets to enjoy great art, says writer Rachel Connolly
The Guardian - UK · Aug 8, 2023 ‘A smorgasbord of unlikability’: the authors helping ‘sad girl lit’ grow up In this post-Fleabag world, publishing has become obsessed with the inner turmoils of messy millennials – but isn’t it time they pulled themselves together? Meet the novelists subverting the cliches
The Guardian - UK · Mar 20, 2023 Everyone wanted me to have a literary rival – I got drunk with him instead I’d been endlessly geed up about the ‘other Belfast novelist’, as if we were obliged to be enemies. I wasn’t having it, says writer Rachel Connolly
The Independent UK · Dec 29, 2022 ‘Brave’ and ‘necessary’ or just plain regressive? How sad girls with bad boyfriends took over the internet Every few weeks a different confessional essay goes viral, each one underpinned by gender essentialism and regressive ideas about relationships. Eloise Hendy unpacks the tropes that are rapidly becoming eerily influential
The Guardian - UK · Dec 8, 2022 Have some dignity, Oxford English Dictionary. No one says ‘goblin mode’ I know its word of the year was put to a public vote, but the result smacks of a stunt trying too hard to go viral, says writer Rachel Connolly
The Guardian - UK · Nov 19, 2022 $26k for Joan Didion’s old books? Why are the rich obsessed with dead authors’ stuff? She was no stranger to self-mythologising. But the prices fetched at her estate sale were more about glamour seeking substance, says writer Rachel Connolly
The Guardian - UK · Oct 22, 2022 Cemeteries can show you what it means to be a person, and how this has changed Our resting places reveal our attempts to make a mark on the world, says journalist Rachel Connolly
The Guardian - UK · Jun 22, 2022 It isn’t just the US: abortion barriers in Britain are forcing women to travel miles for treatment In Scotland and Northern Ireland, access to second-trimester abortions still depends on a damaging postcode lottery, says writer Rachel Connolly
The Guardian - UK · Apr 14, 2022 Is the US really a ‘failed state’ or has the internet just become a series of poor comparisons? On social media, a tendency to connect disparate news stories is causing many of us to lose our sense of reality, says journalist Rachel Connolly