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UNBELIEVABLE: Men confessing biggest turn offs | History Defined
Some people’s dating troubles boil down to a simple issue, that their preferences and standards are, at best, unrealistic and at worst, downright delusional. However, actually identifying that means allowing a certain degree of self reflection, which they typically fail to do.
A thread recently went viral where someone asked “Fellas... Name something a woman does that SHE thinks is a turn on but it's REALLY a turn off” and it attracted some truly delusional answers that we’ve gathered here. Get comfortable as you prepare to raise an eyebrow, upvote the worst ones and be sure to add your own thoughts in the comments below.
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#1
Being cutesy wootsy and pretending to not know how to do anything. That's gross. I've taught my daughters to be assertive. You can be cute and intelligent.
Nadia Lane 2 days ago
Preferring capable and intelligent women is 100% a green flag in my eyes.
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#2
Duck lips.
Min (she/her) 1 day ago
If it's delusional to be turned off by this, I share that delusion. I'm also well aware it's not for my benefit, of course.
#3
Ridiculously long nails. Pounds of make up.
Nadia Lane 2 days ago
Well those are normally just done because the person wearing them likes them
#6
Don't keep bugging me while I'm trying to relax on my game, or watching the game. If I don't bother you during your "me time", let me be during mine.
#7
Any facial modifications/plastic surgery.
I have never in my life thought a woman looked better with it than she did naturally.
Roxy222uk 2 days ago
The original purpose of plastic surgery (and it’s ‘plastic’ as in manipulating something to a different shape, not ‘made of plastic substances’) was always to help people with facial deformities, either from birth or through an accident. Fixing a hare lip would come under this category.
#9
Constant calling. I can love you and not want to spend every waking moment with you. Especially for falling asleep on the phone. I’m not doing that anymore
#10
When she talk about how many other dudes want her.
#11
Play hard to get, or try and make me jealous. I cleared my calendar to be here ma’am… no foolishness, thanks.
#12
Too much makeup. If your face is on my sleeve after a hug, you've worn too much.
Luke || Kira (he/she) 1 day ago
I'd say this one depends on many things. I have friends who are goth / punk and they look absolutely flawless in heavy make-up and razor-sharp eyeliner. Too much make-up is also not my thing, but I'm aware it's necessary to pull some styles well.
#13
Botox/lip filler.
Somebodys grandmother 1 day ago
Ihave had botox for medical reasons many times. It helps reduce migraine-attacks. Put it sure is a funny feeling
#14
When they do the Kim Kardashian makeup and appearance.
Luke || Kira (he/she) 1 day ago
Hard agree, the Generic Influencer Look™ is the biggest personality k!ller.
#15
When a woman says "you can't handle me" um, ma'am you are not a zoo animal. But luckily you showed me the type of female you are with that alone.
David Morgan 2 days ago
This one is SO over-used though. It should mean "you aren't mature enough to deal with someone who doesn't just conform to expectations" as a quite legitimate complaint, but some people (all genders) use it to mean "You should be more tolerant of my acting out". Unless you've met them a few times, it's hard to know which.
#16
Acting helpless in my presence. Makes me feel like "how do you survive on your own?"
Alexandra 1 day ago
This probably has to do with the idea that 'men need to feel needed' and feel diminished when a woman is perfectly able to take care of her own life because men then have to define their role other than 'provider'. Some weird people even claim that the 'male loneliness epidemic' is due to women being able to sustain themselves without men.
#17
Being in your 30s and and talking like a 19 year old on tiktok.
T'Mar of Vulcan 2 days ago
I'm so tired of this picture. Find pics of a different woman to use. (She's lovely but I see her in every.single.article.)
#18
When she puts on a ton of makeup and does weird damaging stuff to their hair for an event or pictures. I know they want to look cute for me but I love the natural you. Too much makeup is a genuine turnoff. I appreciate the gesture and I understand it but It has the opposite of it's intended affect.
#19
Being mean when not warranted. Had a girl on a first date do it and I asked her about it and she told me that guys like it. I told her well I don’t she insisted. Then wondered why I didn’t want to see her again.
#20
Love me the way i want to be loved and not how you want to love me. Example: I’m not very social and don’t care to be around most people. So don’t plan a party for my birthday because you like to socialize. We can go out just you and I and that’s perfect for me.
#21
I don't think turn off is the right word
But I get irritated when I take care of a chore before my fiancé gets to it and she starts beating herself up for not doing it sooner
I did this to make your day easier, not make you feel guilty
Disco Medusa 2 days ago
That’s more to do with the psychology of fiancé. It is often behaviour seen in people that were brought up by parent(s) who made them feel guilty if they missed doing something they were told to do. And then don’t let them forget the incident. 😕
#22
I wouldn’t say “turn off” per se but constantly checking in while I’m working and expecting a full convo. Lemme tell you about my day when it’s over. Good mornings will hold me over til I clock out. I admire it but I feel bad cuz I cant reciprocate it as easily when I’m clocked in
StrangeOne 1 day ago
Some men are notoriously bad for doing this, too. My ex used to show up to my job sites and hang out there until he had somewhere to be, or until I was off work. It got me in trouble a few times. My current bf has been doing better at understanding that I can't have my phone on me while working, but he was really bad at messaging me wondering why I wasn't answering him right away early on. (We both had our bad habits to work on and we're both improving ourselves.)
#23
I hate when they ask you what you want for a holiday, and you tell them exactly what you want. Instead of getting you what you want they get something more expensive and they assume you want it because it cost more but you told them what you wanted and now you have to just be grateful. I appreciate it and the effort but because it’s more expensive doesn’t mean I wanted it more than what I actually asked for. Especially if you what you asked for was practical. That’s just my opinion. 🤷🏾♂️
#24
Be jealous of other women when we not even together that annoying as hell
Riley Quinn 1 day ago
Never did understand jealousy. It's never a becoming trait because it wreaks of low self-esteem. Major turn-off for me because I prefer people who are confident.
#25
I may be the weird one here but honestly nothing. I accept all acts of kindness from my woman. That’s part of how I like to be loved.
#26
If she ever called herself a baddie or said I’m just a girl. ✌🏾
#27
1.) Fake eyelashes.
2.) Intense use of makeup.
3.) Always getting her breasts out (oftentimes less is more).
4.) Proclaiming how "crazy" she is.
#28
Buying me gifts with my money. Just don’t bother at all. I’ll take a mug from the dollar store you bought yourself vs a ps5 you bought on my card
84nbkj6k5c 1 day ago
Don’t buy me something with my money and expect me to praise you for the gift.
#29
Asking what I want and then not doing the thing I asked for.
#30
Backhanded compliments I don’t even think yall realize you’re doing lol “you know you’re really annoying, but I love you more than you annoy me” and I’m just sitting there like “thanks? I think?” 😂
#31
Call me “babe,” especially early in dating/relationship or assign another pet name that I don’t like and continue to use even after I request that she stops.
Luke || Kira (he/she) 1 day ago
I'm not a fan of "baby / babe", but it's still slightly better than "daddy". In my book that's the absolute WORST way a girl can call her partner. It's like twenty layers of horrible.
#32
Constantly calling herself a baddie… Baddies don’t have to tell themselves they bad. Sounds very insecure.
#33
Don’t ask me how I feel then make it all about how YOU feel about the way I FEEL.
Decentralize yourself. If you can.
That’s all I yam 1 day ago
As a teacher, when a student was upset over drama that happened at lunch, I'd tell them I could see they were upset, suggested they take care of themselves, and let them know that I could probably allow whatever to make it happen. My only involvement was to tell other students to let them manage it and ensured I was available if they needed me. Occasionally they asked to see the counselor, but by far the most common response was that they'd remain upset for 5-10 minutes then start their work. They just wanted to be accepted and supported. When I did this, it never escalated.
#34
Takeover what I’m doing as I’m doing it, I be thinking you don’t think I can get it done on my own or that there’s a lack of faith in my abilities
#35
Mothering. The whole ‘have you eaten, let me get you something, you should take a break’ process. I recognize it’s done out of concern and attention, but for me it always feels smothering and infantilizing. I’m a grown man and I can and do take care of myself.
Nadia Lane 2 days ago
Some men do want a mother for a girlfriend, but f**k it they need to grow up. This is the right attitude to that.
#36
I hate anytime I’m micromanaged or second-guessed
Earonn - 1 day ago
This is a bit tricky. I had a guy who would say he does X, Y, Z around the house and then didn't do it. But when I reminded him because it needed it to be done, it was evil micromanaging. So, a bit of self-reflection is necessary here, but for the sake of the theme of this thread, let's assume that it's the unnecessary sort - and does anyone like that???
#37
I know “some” women need to have a full conversation everyday or want to talk/text throughout the workday but I honestly hate that, sometimes I need time to miss you or when I talk I actually wanna have something to say
#38
Maybe I’m getting older now but wearing clothes that’s too revealing in public. Seen a girl a Walmart in shorts with half the bum out… I just shook my head.
#39
Piercing of the septum looking like a bull ...
#40
Long fingernails… all Woman to Woman show and tell.
StrangeOne 1 day ago
Does that really bother men when we do things to ourselves that are for ourselves and to impress other women?
#41
Few years back I was seeing this RN I had met through my job, during intimacy, she grabbed my beard, yanked tf outta it, I winced in actual pain, she thought it was pleasure sounds hated that so much I cut my beard off and haven't grown it back since.
#42
Asking a bunch of questions about the same thing:
Like I understand the idea is because she wants to engage in deep conversations with me. But we're not getting to a deep conversation if we're just going round in circles on one subject. Plus after a bit it just feels like you're not listening to me and I don't see a point in talking with you anymore.
#43
When y'all go from casual to caring and now everything I do pisses you off. Can't laugh if she doesn't find it funny.
#44
Animal print...
StrangeOne 1 day ago (edited)
I can rock leopard print. It's just a print. Not wearing the hide of a leopard. But it keeps reminding of me a lady I saw referenced in many cartoons and shows. The one wearing the cat frame glasses, short hair, red lipstick, a leopard skirt or blouse, and pointy leopard high heels, and I think her name was always Gertrude. Oh, it was Edith Prickley from SCTV.
#45
Fellas, the “mothering” is a nurturing instinct just like our “fathering” is a protective instinct.
#46
Lingerie is annoying, chafes and is dangerous. Wear a man's Tshirt that's too big and nothing else and your guy will find you 100x sexier and can get to pleasing you easier.
Kristiina Männiste 1 day ago
I happen to love lingerie and purchase it for myself. Getting it admired by men occasionally is just an added bonus. Besides, I worked hard to get so far that I was confident when wearing fitted clothes - I dont want to go back to the baggy T shirts
#47
Hair flips ? Over plucking her eyebrows into nonexistence? (Sure sign of neurosis).
#48
Plan dates for me Because most the time the date is going to be something she wants to do or something she wants to do as a couple. Its hardly anything that he would like because that means she may have to be bored while he is happy
The Ibsanos 1 day ago
Or ypu plan em, ay? I can see the headlines.now, "local man discovers effort"
#49
Ummm, when a lady is twerking but she really not that good at it. She wonder why you laughing so hard.
Loosey Goosey 1 day ago
Maybe she's just having fun on the dance floor and doesn't care what you think?
#50
Tattoos.
Crystalwitch60 1 day ago
Hey hoo lol another if keeps men away they are a bonus ,17 n counting despite my age lol
#51
I'll probably get lynched by feminist for this, but y'all women must know the difference between:
"Are you done yet? I miss you." vs "Are you still working? You always work."
"I call dibs on your weekend." vs "I already know you'll be busy."
"There you are. I was looking for you." vs "Where have you been?"
Same need. Different energy. One makes us men feel appreciated & wanted. The other makes us feel guilty & bad. Woman are hot with their feminine energy.
#52
For me it’s when she talk about intimacy and she says “I ain’t never got any complaints” like how many reviews do you have 😂
#53
When they talk about being old or not being sexy anymore. I hate that.
StrangeOne 1 day ago
You should feel comfortable opening up to your partner about your inner struggles, and they should feel comfortable doing the same.
#54
Acting and dressing like your still in high school or college. Also calling a guy daddy. Being a relationship and still dressing like your single.
Ali 2 days ago
I'm confused, is there a different dress code for single and not single? I missed this memo! I do find it odd to call a guy daddy, but I think guy expects to dictate how a woman dresses. If you find her style a real turn off, don't date her. Expecting her to change because you honoured her with your presents is not healthy.
#55
Lifting weights because we are just trying to get better we’re not trying to impress when we are trying to get stronger
#56
Talking bout past sexual experiences.
#57
Make my plate.
It's not a turn off, but kind of annoying since they almost never plate a man sized meal.
#58
they claim they do makeup for themselves then tell you they love themselves. it's all fake. can't love yourself if you put makeup on bc you're seeing nothing but flaws then patch the "flaws" up with a "bandaid"
Lukas (fuck/transphobes) 2 days ago
I mean, it can be just a style choice, just like clothing. A lot of people wear clothes that compliment and enhance their bodies, that's part of fashion. Makeup and hair can be the same.
#60
Thinking that being a strong woman is about matching up with me in physical strength 😂😂😂 Like Yo, you're supposed to be soft and sweet.
reuben kift 2 days ago (edited)
Women aren't supposed to be anything. Unless I'm missing a joke here.
#62
Tryna tag along when I hit the gym.
I don’t have time for someone weaker than me doubling my rest time and I don’t wanna keep removing plates or reminding her of her weight selection every few sets.🥴😩
What do you think ?
Al Fun 1 day ago
Why is it delusional to have preferences and turn-offs when selecting a partner? That’s completely up to you.
Apocalyptic Excavator 1 day ago
Well, some of these guys are clearly against their partner being an adult, others are against their partner treating them like an adult, so I'd say yeah, some of these answers are delusional.
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Snow_White 1 day ago
Why are you posting sexist c**p like this? Why are you giving publicity to some incel asking a ridiculous question? It's along the lines of men asking what women do for men.
Al Fun 1 day ago
Why is it delusional to have preferences and turn-offs when selecting a partner? That’s completely up to you.
Apocalyptic Excavator 1 day ago
Well, some of these guys are clearly against their partner being an adult, others are against their partner treating them like an adult, so I'd say yeah, some of these answers are delusional.
Load More Replies... Snow_White 1 day ago
Why are you posting sexist c**p like this? Why are you giving publicity to some incel asking a ridiculous question? It's along the lines of men asking what women do for men.
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