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There are a lot of different ways to be kind, and there are a lot of different ways to be masculine. But in both cases, what matters most is trying your best to do the right thing.

Most people know what that looks like. The hard part is following through when it’s more convenient not to.

The subreddit ‘Men Of Purpose’ is an online community for those who believe that the purpose of life is a life of purpose.

“We choose direction over drift and meaning over comfort, growing stronger together through discipline, self-mastery, and shared accountability,” the community introduces itself in its ‘About’ section.

And to keep each other motivated, members regularly share inspiring examples of choosing responsibility over excuses. Here are some of our favorite posts.

#1

A police officer sharing snacks and chilling with kids, showing strength and community without saying a word.

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12 hours ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This man really makes a difference - HE makes your country great. Thank you very much!

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    #2

    A man's post about overcoming a craving for alcohol and maintaining sobriety, showing strength.

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    Shark Lady
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    17 hours ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Every day your sobriety continues is a win.

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    Examples like these are especially important now that the manosphere is casting nets on young men not just online, but also in real life.

    A new study has identified what researchers call the “M factor,” a syndrome categorized as a cluster of attitudes linked to misogyny, male supremacy, violence, and opposition to gender equality.

    “The M factor reflects an attitude that sees ‘true masculinity’ as under threat. It is associated with notions of male supremacy, a propensity for violence, misogyny, contempt for sexual minorities, and opposition to gender equality,” said study leader Denis Ribeaud, a criminologist and sociologist at the Jacobs Center for Productive Youth Development at UZH.

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    #3

    An officer and a man, both showing strength, reunited after ten years from the Golden Gate Bridge.

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    Tamra
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    11 hours ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The first photo is so, so heartbreaking. That's such a hopeless, dark place to be. I'm so glad he found his way through to find some happiness.

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    #5

    Men showing strength in bikinis at a petrol pump, an unexpected turn for free fuel.

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    GalPalAl
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    11 hours ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Great idea for advertising and fun to boot. Wish this was more of a thing for other incentives.

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    Researchers from the University of Zurich worked in collaboration with Mencare, the umbrella organization of Swiss men’s and fathers’ groups, to survey more than 6,000 people ages 16 to 64 about masculinity, gender roles, sexuality, family life, relationships, and experiences with violence.

    They wanted to examine how ideas about masculinity are evolving as the manosphere — a network of influencers, online communities, and social media channels promoting forms of extreme masculinity and male dominance — continues to grow.

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    “Our data show that all these views are closely linked and can be traced back to a common underlying attitude,” Ribeaud added.

    According to the results, 20% of men and 7% of women surveyed fell into the group with high M factor scores.

    These people are more likely to exhibit problematic or violent behavior. The factor is widespread in the youngest age group: almost 1 in 3 men ages 18 to 24 (31%) belong to the group with the highest scores.

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    M-factor scores were also higher in suburban and rural areas than in cities.

    #9

    Parents listening to their son's transplanted heart beat, a moment of strength without saying a word.

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    GalPalAl
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    11 hours ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Maybe instead of electing politicians to the government, we should hire humanitarians instead.

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    Men with a low level of education, low professional status, and low income were overrepresented in the group with high M-factor scores

    Among men ages 18 to 24 with an apprenticeship qualification, almost one in two falls into this group (47%). The reverse is also true: the higher a person’s level of education and the better their prospects in life, the lower their M-factor score.

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    According to the authors of the study, men whose fathers were born in countries that are characterized by more patriarchal social structures have higher M-factor scores.

    Such structures are particularly common in places where rule-of-law institutions are less firmly established, they said. Men from such backgrounds may be less familiar with, or more skeptical of, Western norms of equality. If they also experience exclusion and limited social participation, this can trigger a counterreaction in which a restrictive and dominance-based concept of masculinity becomes a seemingly reliable anchor for their self-esteem.

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    #12

    Jared, a man demonstrating strength, working out after battling lung cancer.

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    IamMego
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    12 hours ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I wish you all the best in life, Jared. You got this!!!!

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    #13

    Trenton Dyck, a boy of strength, donating Make-A-Wish dollars to Haitian children for clean water.

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    Frank Ropen
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    6 hours ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So a 13 year old kid with cancer has done more than Trump and his billionaire pals and his trillionaire moron pal

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    #15

    A man drinks a beer at a tombstone, maintaining a tradition with his buddy, showing strength in remembrance.

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    tw 72
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    11 hours ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    His buddy knows he's there and loves him for it. 😇

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    High M-factor scores are linked to a greater likelihood of following “traditional” divisions of labor within families and relationships, in which women are more likely to perform the majority of care work, while men are much more likely to be the sole breadwinners.

    Such men are also more likely to view the roles of fathers and mothers as fundamentally different, and to believe that boys and girls need to be raised in very different ways.

    Additionally, these men think authoritarian behavior and violence are justified in raising kids.

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    #16

    An aerial view of many tiny homes built by a Canadian millionaire, showing strength through community support and reducing homelessness.

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    Bonnie Gardiner
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    18 hours ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sure would be nice if a few BILLIONAIRES in the US would something that kind.

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    #17

    A man showing strength by inviting an 89-year-old neighbor to live with him, providing companionship.

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    LakotaWolf (she/her)
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    17 hours ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    One of the most rewarding things in my life right now is when I spend time with the other elderly people at my ex's mother's memory care facility after I've visited her. She's the only resident who gets frequent, consistent visitors (my ex goes nearly every day, and I visit several times a week.) But I rarely see family/anyone else visit the other residents. So I always stop and talk to them, even the ones who have aphasia or other language issues (I listen and react as if they are speaking coherently.) A few of the other residents have started recognizing me and they always smile and wave when they see me. It breaks my heart that I never see them get any other visitors, even on holidays/special events I've attended. It's really difficult emotionally to spend time with them, and it hurts my heart that I can't do more for them, but it is so, SO rewarding anyway. Spend a moment with someone who needs it, even if they're a stranger.

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    High M-factor scores were also associated with an increased likelihood of violence in romantic relationships.

    “The M factor is a consistent risk factor for intimate partner violence—in terms of perpetrating and experiencing it, and across both sexes: men and women with high M-factor scores are more likely to report having committed but also experienced violence in their relationships,” Ribeaud explained.

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    “This is not contradictory. Those who see male supremacy, contempt for women and controlling behavior as normal are at greater risk of being on both sides of this dynamic.”

    #19

    A young man gets help tying his tie from a man showing strength and kindness.

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    UnclePanda
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    9 hours ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I worked in a nursing home as a teen and tied all the men's ties every Sunday. But because I could only tie them on myself, I had to slip the tie off my head and over theirs. They found that hilarious for some reason.

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    #20

    A 72-year-old father showing strength by waiting at a bus stop to walk his daughter home.

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    Janelle Collard
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    19 hours ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I love this one, cuz you're never too old too be your dad's little girl. 😁

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    #21

    Kevin O'Leary, a man of strength, criticizing Gen Z's lunch spending.

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    Peter Bear
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    6 hours ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And who raised the prices on that sandwich? Not the workers. That would be the corporate oligarchs. Who refuses to raise wages so that people can afford those sandwiches? Not the workers. That would be the politicians. Blame where it is due.

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    #22

    A tweet by kcl about job goals, highlighting strength in maintaining employment for living expenses and personal fulfillment.

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    tw 72
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    11 hours ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Also for long-term, experienced employees - it is possible to run out of useful goals, which means you are wasting your time for some silly corporate requirement.

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    “‘Masculinity’ is a relatively new way of thinking about men,” said Catherine Aponte, Psy.D., who previously was a clinical psychologist and an adjunct professor at Spalding University.

    “Since the feminist movement of the ’70s, there has been an ever-growing number of different ‘masculinities,’ such as inclusive masculinity, caring masculinity, toxic masculinity, flexible masculinity, and hegemonic masculinity. Not surprisingly, the idea of a ‘crisis in masculinity is now in vogue.”

    To help men define their own view on the topic, Aponte suggested to:

    1. Make a list of several “masculine traits” that describe you.
    2. Think about specific situations in which you displayed a given “trait.”
    3. Think about a situation in which these traits would not characterize how you would act.
    4. Think about how displaying specific masculine traits might impact other people.
    5. Think about a situation in which a woman might display these “masculine” traits.
    6. Think about how each of these traits could be considered human qualities rather than “masculine traits.”
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    After thinking about these points, “you may now ... ask yourself what social value the idea of ‘masculinity’ holds for you,” Aponte added. “And, how important is being masculine to your self-concept?”

    #23

    A man with a dog holding a Pooh Bear, showing that strength also means needing comfort.

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    sturmwesen
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    19 hours ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    ProTip: order a backup. Lou once lost his Teddy and the drama was real. Of course a neighbour found Teddy, after we ordered backups, but still ...

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    #24

    Little neighbor boy working with dad, showing strength and friendship without saying a word.

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    La fille à Rod
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    7 hours ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    my dad had a little neighbour like that. he was waiting for my dad to come outside and join him immediately and asking "what are we fixing today Rod?" my dad has passed away in 2015 and the little guy was there, now an adult, with his baby kid and his wife...

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    #25

    An older man showing strength by sharing a photo of him and his wife at prom.

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    LakotaWolf (she/her)
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    17 hours ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I am always so thankful when someone shares something about their loved ones who have díed, whether it's a spouse, child, or a pet. We get to carry that loved one in our hearts and minds as well now, and even though we never knew them in life, they still have value and they still deserve to be remembered. I don't know if this gentleman's lovely prom date was still alive or not, but it is always an honor when someone shares their loved ones.

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    #26

    A tweet by Tay Zonday about poverty's compounding costs, showing what strength looks like in financial awareness.

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    Auntriarch
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    12 hours ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And don't get me started on a decent pair of boots

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    #27

    An Australian soccer player proposes to his girlfriend, showcasing their strength and love.

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    LakotaWolf (she/her)
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    17 hours ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    They were married in 2023 and had a daughter in 2024! He was still alive as of 12 weeks ago according to her Instagram, so... happy ending! Woo!

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    #29

    A father showing strength by carrying his baby while working in Vietnam.

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    GalPalAl
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    11 hours ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is a great man. Maybe regular people like should receive a peace prize for doing the right thing. We need to reward and support this

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    #31

    A meme with text about men preferring a shy, polite, soft woman, showing strength in preferences.

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    That’s all I yam
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    19 hours ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yep. Communicate openly and honestly. Doesn't have to agree with me, just be willing to try to work toward a consensus, working toward a happy family.

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    #33

    An illustration of a man with a raised hand in a crowd, embodying strength and being the man of your own dreams.

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    nicholas nolan
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    6 hours ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    lol, great to see it end with "you're not good enough." Well done, BP. Just...magnificent.

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