Mother was caught breaking my arm when I was 2 by my paternal grandmother, she begged her not to tell my dad as it would "ruin our family" - I was sent to live with gran 3 days out of the week because mother didn't want me around, we were both happy with that arrangement.

My gran told me maybe 3 years ago and said it was the biggest regret of her life as it allowed mother to think she could continue abusing me and nobody would say a word. (She did, they didn't)

My gran is partly at fault but I have forgiven her and I love her a lot. She raised me, she protected me from many things, and I think I understand why she did it.

I've distanced myself away from the whole family at this point. Never felt any urge to hit or scream at my daughter ever in her 9 years on this earth. She's my world.