How can I end a strained friendship as gently as possible? Your friend may have the capacity to change and needs someone on her side to help – but you could consider distancing yourself for a while The Guardian - UK · Oct 20, 2023
I feel trapped by our family life abroad and want to move back to London Geography may only be part of the problem – talk to your husband about what you want your future to look like The Guardian - UK · Oct 13, 2023
Both my parents died and then my step-parents got together. Why can’t I be happy for them? You have lost both your parents, and a disrupted childhood with few boundaries. It’s no wonder strong feelings are now exploding out of you The Guardian - UK · Oct 6, 2023
I feel sickened with myself for shouting at my child. Please help You say you’d never hurt your children, but you do seem scared of losing control The Guardian - UK · Sep 29, 2023
How do I find a balance between work, family and my new partner? Your mum is ill, you’re divorcing your children’s father and there’s a new boyfriend in the mix. You need a routine to help you divide your time wisely The Guardian - UK · Sep 22, 2023
My friends haven’t been there for me since my dad’s death Death is scary. It’s understandable that you expect more support from your friends, but you might need to be the one to start the conversation The Guardian - UK · Sep 15, 2023
My friend is working so hard it’s affecting her health and family. How can I help? She could be using work to escape something else – but listen and empathise rather than telling her what she’s doing wrong The Guardian - UK · Sep 8, 2023
My stepson lives with a girlfriend twice his age. Should I be worried? You wanted him to move out and become independent, but now he is choosing a lifestyle you don’t like. Take care not to push him away The Guardian - UK · Sep 1, 2023
Should I still see my difficult sister now our parents have died? There’s clearly a lot of pain for both of you – and your stories need to be heard if you are to break the see-saw pattern The Guardian - UK · Aug 25, 2023
I’m worried my mum is rushing into marriage with her new boyfriend It’s not unusual to feel left out and suspicious about a parent starting a new relationship, but it’s important to seek reassurance from your mother The Guardian - UK · Aug 18, 2023
My wife finds her mother’s rightwing rants hurtful. Should we cut her off? Put your relationship first and maintain a united front – and if your mother-in-law becomes too toxic, walk away The Guardian - UK · Aug 11, 2023
Living alone is making my anxiety spiral, but I’m too ashamed to reach out to friends and family Invite people into your home – bringing people into your space instead of you always going to theirs might help The Guardian - UK · Aug 4, 2023
My husband has no friends and is too reliant on me. How can I help him? The issue here may be more than a concern for his lack of a social life. Try to look at your relationship holistically, rather than seeing him as having the problem The Guardian - UK · Jul 28, 2023
My sister is drinking heavily while pregnant. How can I help her stop? Excessive alcohol consumption puts the baby at risk so she needs urgent professional support – but approach her with compassion The Guardian - UK · Jul 21, 2023
The Guardian - UK · Jul 14, 2023 I want to go back on my decision to share parental leave with my partner Neither of you could imagine how you’d feel once your baby arrived – but being an effective parent is about being flexible when things change
The Guardian - UK · Jul 7, 2023 I’d like my fiance to take my last name – is that too much to ask of him? Have you talked to him about this? It might be a sign of something else, but either way, discussing and solving it is what marriage is all about
The Guardian - UK · Jun 30, 2023 My daughter will only eat junk food. How can I get her on a healthy diet? Having a fussy eater is far from unusual, but your child may have a food disorder that can be treated – just don’t put pressure on her
The Guardian - UK · Jun 24, 2023 Happy endings: our advice columnist on the columns that helped change people’s lives Annalisa Barbieri has been helping Guardian readers with their personal problems since 2008. Here she shares some of her favourite bits of feedback
The Guardian - UK · Jun 23, 2023 My mother-in-law’s partner has a police record for exposing himself. Do we tell her? We have no idea if he will be a threat, but you cannot take the risk – so you must say something
The Guardian - UK · Jun 16, 2023 I’m plagued by intrusive, violent thoughts. How can I lessen their impact? Try sharing your feelings with loved ones or professionals to quell your fears and frustrations
The Guardian - UK · Jun 9, 2023 My friend talks nonstop about herself. How can I get her to listen to me? Not being listened to is exhausting. If you want to continue the friendship, you’ll need to make your needs clear
The Guardian - UK · Jun 2, 2023 My boyfriend controls me and threatens to leave when I see my friends. What can I do? He is being abusive and in the UK this sort of behaviour – coercive control – is a crime
The Guardian - UK · May 26, 2023 Biting the skin off my fingers feels like self-harm – but I can’t stop Therapy could help you figure out why you still resort to this coping mechanism from your past – which is one I can relate to
The Guardian - UK · May 19, 2023 I can’t get past how empty I feel since my best friend died Grief is a massive emotion that can take years to process, but you can and will grow around it
The Guardian - UK · May 12, 2023 I was brought up in an abusive family. Should I cut them off? Your parents were violent and left you vulnerable to sexual abuse, yet you’ve worked incredibly hard to turn your life around. Do not let that go