My parents have died and now my brothers don’t speak. I feel so sad It’s time to change your relationship with sadness The Guardian - UK · Dec 24, 2023
My sister and I had a row, and now she has snubbed our Christmas invite You may not be consciously aware, but you seem to want to be seen as better than her The Guardian - UK · Dec 17, 2023
My lover won’t leave his family. Should I wait or move on? Your lover is lying to his next of kin so he is capable of deceiving you, too, says Philippa Perry The Guardian - UK · Dec 10, 2023
Being ‘ugly’ is ruining our lives: two readers share their anguish Find out the reason you decided to believe you were ugly and learn to love yourself – it will show, says Philippa Perry The Guardian - UK · Dec 3, 2023
I’ve fallen out with all my friends and colleagues – why? Learn what your triggers to volatility are and be curious about other people’s opinions – without insisting that yours is right The Guardian - UK · Nov 26, 2023
Grayson Perry: 'my audience is the well-educated left-leaning middle classes. So I make them suffer for that' The acclaimed artist, writer and TV star is touring a new one-man show. He talks about not chasing laughs, the car-crash of current politics and developing a musical about his life Evening Standard · Nov 24, 2023
I am so lonely and so isolated, I feel I’m living like a zombie It sounds as though something from your past has triggered your brooding – and that you have forgotten how to make things happen for yourself The Guardian - UK · Nov 19, 2023
Why am I bingeing on food and drink since my husband died? You may be frightened to grieve so eat and drink to suppress your feelings, says Philippa Perry The Guardian - UK · Nov 12, 2023
I love my son, but I resent my daughter A therapist could help you to separate yourself from the part of you that dislikes your little girl, says Philippa Perry The Guardian - UK · Nov 5, 2023
It was love at first sight – but now she is distant and cold You both fell for a fantasy and are now on a victim/rescuer merry-go-round that you need to get off The Guardian - UK · Oct 29, 2023
My mum’s depression drags me down. I feel I need to stay away Set boundaries, says Philippa Perry. Block her number for periods so you don’t spend your days in dread and give her a contact for the Samaritans The Guardian - UK · Oct 22, 2023
My devout wife no longer seems to care what she looks like You need to try and learn to accept your wife’s autonomy in these matters, says Philippa Perry The Guardian - UK · Oct 15, 2023
Letters: saving civilian lives in Gaza must be paramount Showing restraint, compassion for the innocent and acting according to humanitarian ideals are not weaknesses The Guardian - UK · Oct 15, 2023
Super Thursday: 7 books to pick up on the biggest day in publishing From Mary Berry to Shirley Ballas, some major names have new books coming out. The Independent UK · Oct 12, 2023
The Guardian - UK · Oct 8, 2023 My husband had an affair 45 years ago. It still bothers me You’re still thinking about it because you weren’t given a proper explanation, says Philippa Perry
The Guardian - UK · Oct 1, 2023 My husband can’t relate to people and has lost his job It is never too late to use therapy to unpack things we’ve been told, says Philippa Perry
The Guardian - UK · Sep 24, 2023 Should I worry about my recreational heroin use? Yes, worry, says Philippa Perry – the ‘Addiction Monster’ will always find a reason for you to carry on. But there is help available to you
The Guardian - UK · Sep 22, 2023 Never show your kids weakness … and other parenting myths, debunked Is screen time really that bad? Should you swear in front of your kids? And is it possible to undo your mistakes? Experts tackle the big parenting questions of our time
The Guardian - UK · Sep 17, 2023 I feel like I’ve wasted my 20s. What is holding me back? You’ve accomplished a lot. Don’t think of life as milestones that must be met by certain ages. By Philippa Perry
The Guardian - UK · Sep 10, 2023 Our elderly aunt won’t move into a sheltered home She may feel that her house is part of who she is. Focus on ways to make it safer – and doing things that bring her joy
The Guardian - UK · Sep 3, 2023 My sisters fell out, but our parents won’t get involved Family feuds are a complex web of painful feelings. Talking them through requires all sides to understand the others’ hurt and where it comes from
The Guardian - UK · Aug 27, 2023 I find socialising so tiring, but worry I’m missing out Experiment with being who you are, not who you think you ought to be
The Guardian - UK · Aug 20, 2023 I fell in love and had an affair, should I tell my partner? Your partner has a right to know. Then his decision on whether to stay with you will be informed, says Philippa Perry
The Guardian - UK · Aug 13, 2023 Why does my loving partner refuse to show affection in public? Like all things relational, this could probably do with being talked about
The Guardian - UK · Aug 6, 2023 My father’s anxiety makes family visits unbearable Instead of reassuring him, gently point out that he is frightening himself, says Philippa Perry. Get your mum and sister on board with this approach